[Know-the-Ledge]

The-Mughal-Sister, on 12 April 2012 - 12:38 AM, said:

I've always carried a dream to adopt a child, to give him/her love that they couldn't receive from their parents and go make him/her smile for that one day, that one moment would make all my dreams come true!!

No amount of wealth, no house, no car, no status could give me such satisfaction!! I pray for all those little kids asleep on the roads under the bridges with no one to love them no one to ask, 'have you eaten today my child?' and no one to stroke them to sleep in their lap!!

I'm sorry I get a bit teary eyed and emotional when thinking of such destitute darlings!!

I love the work The Edhi Foundation has done for orphans and kids and would love to help them InshaAllah!!!

In the past, I used to be cold, obdurate, dispassionate and cynical, I would read Nietzche, Heidegger, Kant, Marx and other weird philosophers that would inject a serum of negativity and hopelessness into my heart and mind; but reading this post has fully crystalised how A. wrong I was and B. how much i've changed.

I too want to be and think like you, it feels strange but I see what is now the true calling in life of the muslim and human-being; to help one another and reading this thread is heart rendering and the video Seeker posted made me teary-eyed; it's taking me alot of courage to say this so...bare with me :s

I used to be terse and brutish when reading posts like this in the past, I couldn't see beyond the tip of my cynicism, but i've realised how deceived I was, money, cars, houses, wealth, youth, just feed your mind with such a misapprhension about who and what you actually are - dust! You're born naked and you die naked, as does everybody else and it is only the mercy of Allah that you have what you do have and then today we abuse that mercy by being haughty and using our tongues against him and what he loves?

I too want to do something for humanity, in' shah Allah from this day on, i'm going to try and to do two things; this is to help atleast one person with one thing everyday, even if it means a smile to give someone a piece of warmth in the world and...Sing more (even if it's in my own living room) LAL

Your post was moving, I also want to 'dream', feel love, bathe in hope, i'm going to get to know my parents more

[Know-the-Ledge]

Apne man meh doob kar pah ja surag e zindagi
Tu agar mera nahein banta na ban, apna to ban

- Sir Allama Iqbal (ra)

(I can't edit my posts anymore, that sucks...lal)

[badman]

Salams,

Saving one life is like saving all of mankind
(destroying) one life is like (destroying) whole of mankind........??????

[seeker]

Was thinking about this again today... The issue of the father and the adopted girl...

It seems from the point of view of "familial ties", the mother and - by extension - the siblings can all become bonded to the adopted girl by breastfeeding. The father, however, is not included in the bond. At best, he can be called a step-father.

So do we need a change in law, with regards to step-fathers? No... I don't think this is right. Can the father do anything specific to make himself related to her? Nope. So then what are we asking? We need a concrete way of "if you have done this, then you are related", otherwise it's too open to abuse. Perhaps if you have changed 20 nappies of the baby, you can be related to her? Or if you have taken her to school 100 times? Or do we just turn a blind eye to the Law in this case, and consider it a guideline nothing more?

It's late so pardon me if these thoughts are disjointed!

[seeker]

I just learned something...


...If the mother breastfeeds the child, then the mother's husband is included in the familial bond (so the father is a mahram to foster-daughter).

http://www.islam.tc/...=11928&act=view
http://www.islam.tc/...q=9514&act=view
http://spa.qibla.com...&ID=266&CATE=87