[GuS]

Assalamu Alikkum va rahmatullahi va barakaatuhu

I am new here and in dire need of help. My situation is slightly complicated, and I need someone to help me desperately. I am in love with a religious muslim man who also loves me. We met 13 years ago and fell in love, but due to some reasons, we could not work it out. Our parents would have consented to our marriage if we had told them then. However, we were both not religious then. We continued to like each other deep in our hearts and now, after 13 years, we have reunited. Now we are both transformed and have become religious and follow the teachings of islam to the extent possible. However, during these years, due to some on mistakes on my part and dislike for my parents (who unfortunately, are not very religious), his parents do not like me to be their daughter in law. We both earnestly hope and pray that Allah (subhaanahu va ta'aala) blesses us with marriage, although we know and accept that everything is already written by Allah (subhaanahu va ta'aala) and whatever he wishes will only happen. However, we do not wish to lose hope and wish to continue to pray as we are very happy with each other and we both are deeni and devoted to Allah. I love him deeply and truly and he loves me more than I do. We know this is forbidden in Islam but this happened without us intending for it.

Is there any dua or prayer I can do to Allah (subhanahu va ta'aala) to keep my hope alive that if we ask with true heart, he may grant us our wish? I wish to get married to him and raise our family as a pure muslim family in all respects. Another point to be noted is that my parents are into business and they earn a lot of money, in which I am not interested at all. I work and offer little charity on my part and we are both very happy with that. Currently, I do the following for praying for our marriage:

Recite (in the sequence):

"bismillahi rahmaani rraheem
ya lateefu (3 times)
allahu akbar (3 times)
allahumma salli 'ala muhammad sallallahu 'alaihi va sallam (3 times)"

"durood ibrahim (3 times)"

"allahumma anta al qadiru va anal maqduru faman yad'ul maqduru illal qadiru ajib yaa jibraaeelu bu haqqi hathal adheem. An thaqdhhiyal haajathi ya qaadiyal haajaathi bi rahmathika yaa arhamu rrahimeena valhamdulillahi rabbil 'aalameen (40 times)"

"durood ibrahim (3 times)"

"ya lateefu (3 times)
allahu akbar (3 times)
allahumma salli 'ala muhammad sallallahu 'alaihi va sallam (3 times)"

"speak out my desire to Allah (in my heart)"

I do this daily, mostly after tahajjud prayer else after Fajr. In rare cases, where I am not able to do so, I do it after any other Fardh prayer.

I wish to do ishtikhaara for marriage and I also heard about wazifa. I heard you need permission to do the wazifa from a holy person. Since I am new to it, I do not have much clue about it. Can you please advise?

Also, is there anything I can do to help my situation? We do not wish to hurt either of our parents. Should they disagree, we will not marry each other. However, we do not want to give up hope and wish to seek help from our Creator, the only one who can help us. Please help and guide us....

If i have offended anyone, I apologize and if i have written anything wrong asthagfirullah.

[arzooemadinah]

Question is how old are you now?

as you mentioned you met him 13 years back and claiming that you could marry him that time so you must be about 17 or 20 at that time so if you were then by now you both are old enough to arrange your marriage .

He dont need his parents conscent now if he is an adult and big enough so why you are worrying ask him arrange nikah and live happily.

We all got different excuses if two adults in love they can have nikah whenever they can if they sincear with each other and if they only using each other then they can make 100 excuses.

[Fatema-the-resplendent]

Hope and pray you can convince your Parents, InshAllah you will be together. You have a very nice approach to not wanting to hurt his or your parents; for this reason alone the Parents on both sides should agree seeing how much you are prepared to sacrifice for their will. I wish they knew this

This post has been edited by Fatema-the-resplendent: 11 April 2012 - 11:16 PM

[GuS]

We are both 27 now. Yes, we can arrange our nikaah ourself and do it but if our parents get hurt by it, then that happiness loses all its value. Our parents gave us values in life and as true muslims we love and respect our parents, this is what Allah (subhaanallahu va ta'aala) has ordained for us, to not go against our parents or hurt them. Our love for each other from 13 years is not more than the care and protection and love our parents provided us for 27 years. Kindly help me by providing some way I can make du'a to my Lord to help us.

Jazakallah khair.

[Abu-Feizah]

May Allaah make it easier for you.

[Sister.T]

Assalamu Alaikum

I am in the same position as u. I need to get my parents consent to marry the man I want as we both want to marry each other but they still haven't told me what they are deciding. We love Allah more than anyone or anything else. I have read that reading Durood Tunjina 100 times daily helps and has worked I have started reading this today and will do till I marry him and till my parents are happy with us. But If u have found any dua that has helped u please tell me too. I do dua that you marry him and that your parents will hopefully understand that Islam comes first before anything else and I do dua that they give you consent. As I am in the same situation as you I understand what you are going through. Insha'Allah you will get to marry him. Please do dua for me too.

Jazakallah

[Fekay]

Ironic isn't it. The very people who supposed to be 'support' in your quest for happiness,in the end, become a thorn in your path. Strange life.

[Sister.T]

Fekay, on 05 May 2012 - 10:44 PM, said:

Ironic isn't it. The very people who supposed to be 'support' in your quest for happiness,in the end, become a thorn in your path. Strange life.

I agree with you. It's us who are going to marry the man/woman not them. They should just be happy that there is someone out their who wants to make Allah happy and make their son/daughter happy.

[tajraza]

Assalamualaikum. Dear fellow ashiqueen of Beloved Prophet(sallal lahu alaihi wasllam) you guys really wish to marry each other then do one thing analyze that are your parents opposed to your marriage on what grounds. The reason for them not agreeing to your wish is on their ego and they are saying that caste is a different? In Islam there is no such thing as caste rich or poor hence if the parents are on these things then you guys can marry have your consent with an alim or mufti they can tell you the laws of shariat and falling in love in islam is not haraam. Unless and untill you stay in the boundaries of shariat. You can not have a realationship with him/her you can not roam outside etc. Pray for Allah use Naade Ali(Nade Aliyam mazharal ajaib) Inshallah you guys will be married if your niyyat and love for each other is true. May Allah By the waseela of Hazrath Ali(raziallah tala anhu) fulfill your wish. Ameen. Pray for me. Assalamualaikum.

[Sister.T]

Thank you what you wrote make perfect sense mine isn't because of caste difference but something else but I hope what you wrote will help the sister who posted this thread Insha'Allah. But it's true that most parents now are going off tradition and culture rather than Islam. And even the traditions and our culture is our own we have got it from the Hindu/Sikh culture e.g the mendhis etc.

I pray and do dua that the sister who originally posted the thread marries him as she has done nothing wrong it's the parents who are stopping them from getting married. In Islam you get married to become one for Allah and pray to him, do dua, help other Muslims, it's sunnah to get married but for the right reasons. Most parents want their daughters to get married to a doctor or someone with lots of money or high status etc but money isn't going to get us to Jannah only love for Allah is. Why can't parents these days see that? They are hung on tradition and culture from way back when they got married.

[Sister.T]

tajraza, on 06 May 2012 - 09:09 AM, said:

Assalamualaikum. Dear fellow ashiqueen of Beloved Prophet(sallal lahu alaihi wasllam) you guys really wish to marry each other then do one thing analyze that are your parents opposed to your marriage on what grounds. The reason for them not agreeing to your wish is on their ego and they are saying that caste is a different? In Islam there is no such thing as caste rich or poor hence if the parents are on these things then you guys can marry have your consent with an alim or mufti they can tell you the laws of shariat and falling in love in islam is not haraam. Unless and untill you stay in the boundaries of shariat. You can not have a realationship with him/her you can not roam outside etc. Pray for Allah use Naade Ali(Nade Aliyam mazharal ajaib) Inshallah you guys will be married if your niyyat and love for each other is true. May Allah By the waseela of Hazrath Ali(raziallah tala anhu) fulfill your wish. Ameen. Pray for me. Assalamualaikum.

Could you tell me where to find Naade Ali or give me a link please.

JazakAllah Khair