[Hussain0786]

I.Will.Back, on 10 April 2012 - 11:53 AM, said:

Thank you for that. That was like one of those 'final thought' segments, the only problem being you have to either A. Be related to the Queen or B. be the Boss of the Country or C. be a moderator of the forum (which you NOR ME are) to have command over rights to the 'final thoughts' segment; so add something beneficial which may be of use to the original poster or desist, we are not her to judge or shame people but correct, guide and pick up the shattered pieces of their soul. It's what bros do, it's in the book The Bro Code Manual.

Thank the holy Lord that you've wrote in a language I understand.

[Aljannah]

Sorry to say but Wth? You're both disgusting. And shame on you too. This girl will now probably think its ok to sleep around. Seeing as you've done the DEED with her. Why do people need to prove their illegal Love with having to sleep with one another? It proves nothing. It's the start of something that will lead one to Hell.

Those parents who don't want their kids marrying from a certain family should have valid Islamic points. If they don't, they should shut up. You should have ran away with her. I don't know if this is Islamic. But you didn't start this off Islamically so... yh.

Anyways. Yeah. Go get married. And tell that woman to learn a lesson. If she can take a massive step in displeasing Allaah swt. Then she'll be more than able to know how to sort her life out from now. Good luck to the both of you.

[Fatema-the-resplendent]

I actually believe in ironing out creases, not throwing away the garment or destroying it.

Where I am standing I feel all three of you involved in this awful mess are victims. Yes there have been haram acts committed but I do not like to judge since I am not GOD.

What is the best thing to do given the situation?

Lady A is obviously forced into taking a decision under pressure from her family through their evil caste crusade. Love is not something one can put out, just because she forcibly married someone else does not mean she is over you or should be expected to she is a human being. It looks as though she does love you, is stressed from the guilt she is going through. Her husband, is he really her husband when she has not accepted him from her heart? (this is what it looks like). Whether you and her get together or not she needs to leave her Husband who is in a sham marriage, he deserves a chance to be happy in life and deserves honesty. With you, you need to ask yourself a serious question. Are you willing to marry her if she divorces her husband? (considering it may not be her fault that she has been emotionally blackmailed by her ruthless Parents). If it a yes then atleast two people can live together happily out of three unhappy people, she must therefore divorce her husband asap and marry you regardless of her parents pressure. If the answer is no, then confront her and tell her your decision. Infact start looking for a partner if you want to move on from this. Don't involve the Police just tell her and she will surely move on when she knows you are with someone else; she still thinks she has a chance with you.

Adopt forgiveness and learn to forgive people, holding grudges is bad for your Nafs. If you can forgive her then do but do NOT ever bring up her past and if you are uncertain you can do this then move on-in either case forgive her and tell her that.

Good luck.

[arzooemadinah]

I think when one reach the age of adulthood no one can force them to marry someone they dont want. In pakistan different but if in uk usa not possible. If a girl or a boy can start relationship even sleep with others etc that mean they are not simple they are crafty so when it comes to marriage they blame the parents the caste this and that . In us uk they can easily involve the social or the police or the family doctors or the marriage councils instead of marry and then blame the husbands and wives and want to come back to there old lovers.

As she claiming that she not even consume the marriage .In this age and time I dont think one will allow you to marry and then live as a guest and dont even let him touch you this is a fabricated story she is making because she dont like the new husband as well .

better dont marry at the ist place get help or if marry then live with husbands and wives as humans live.

Whatever this lady A or you Ali do you both will never have a sound life because you break Allah's law . When one have marital relationship without nikah he or she did not think how big sin he is doing everyday.

[Fatema-the-resplendent]

arzooemadinah, on 11 April 2012 - 06:28 PM, said:

Whatever this lady A or you Ali do you both will never have a sound life because you break Allah's law . When one have marital relationship without nikah he or she did not think how big sin he is doing everyday.

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How do you know for certain that they have not already asked for forgiveness from God and that God has not forgiven them?
You do not know, and based on that how can you a mortal being of sins and many sins yet to come without certainty that you will die in Iman be so eager to condemn?

This post has been edited by Fatema-the-resplendent: 11 April 2012 - 06:39 PM

[Ali_01]

Jazakullah khair for the advice sister FTR. May Allah Almighty reward you immensely by Hazoor Salalaho Alahi Wasalam.

[The-Mughal-Sister]

Ali_01, on 11 April 2012 - 07:33 PM, said:

Jazakullah khair for the advice sister FTR. May Allah Almighty reward you immensely by Hazoor Salalaho Alahi Wasalam.

Ameen!!

[Know-the-Ledge]

Generally speaking, women have been famous for untold years...AM just takes that onto a whole 'nother level lal

Ali I trust you've been given enough cud to chew on here, let us know how it goes, this comoonity is like a petri dish of advice, mixed up with a shower of fish wives who rain on people indiscriminately...