[seeker]

Assalaam alaykum,

Too often, the rules in history are written by men. Heck, even some of the rules of religion! I have a position of responsibility this coming year in charge of some Muslims, and I have to consider my stance on some of these segregation policies. Admittedly, I do have a more lax approach than what is considered "strict" segregation. My justification being that we live and work alongside each other all the time and it seems artificial to introduce it at specific times.

I realise these are just words at the moment: "lax", "strict", etc. But I wanted women's opinions on this matter, because - while your standard liberal would equate anti-segregation with freedom - I have a suspicion that some Muslim women like the separate-ness...? I don't know, honestly! All I know is that I can't help but feel sorry for you that you pray in a different room, or sit at the back all the time, or have separate halaqas, etc. Some aspects of segregation are mutual, eg. speaking with one another, even "looking" at one another, but again I'd like your thoughts. Is it offensive that Muslim boys/men ignore you / don't talk to or acknowledge you when walking past, or is it empowering? Do you feel there's something wrong that you you pray Jumu'ah without seeing the Imam, or do you feel protected as a group of women only?


(I also heard women like to talk.. So talk away! Please don't shoot me)

[qalam]

salam


I have no problem wih the segregation infact i welcome it.



dr aq


[/i]- Dr AQ in reply to a comment made by an MP

This post has been edited by The-Mughal-Sister: 04 April 2012 - 08:07 AM
Reason for edit: Just stick to the topic.

[Know-the-Ledge]

Massive deja vu, i've been here before it seems, you posted a topic that was really enthusing but I couldn't post for some reason...now I know why, self-imposed restrictions. How weird. These co-incidental occurences give me hope though, like there is a force exerting control over my life and at the end, there will be a grand finale and somekind of meaning will be revealed. Anyway...must go!

p.s I also once used to have a position of responsibility, you can furnish further information from The History Channel HD

I.W.B

[seeker]

I.Will.Back, on 04 April 2012 - 11:33 AM, said:

Massive deja vu, i've been here before it seems, you posted a topic that was really enthusing but I couldn't post for some reason...now I know why, self-imposed restrictions. How weird. These co-incidental occurences give me hope though, like there is a force exerting control over my life and at the end, there will be a grand finale and somekind of meaning will be revealed. Anyway...must go!

p.s I also once used to have a position of responsibility, you can furnish further information from The History Channel HD

I.W.B

Lol bro I think that was the topic about being "friends" with girls - I can alhamdulillah say that confusion is behind me! God indeed rescued me!

[Malaaikah]

seeker, on 04 April 2012 - 01:30 AM, said:

Assalaam alaykum,

Too often, the rules in history are written by men. Heck, even some of the rules of religion! I have a position of responsibility this coming year in charge of some Muslims, and I have to consider my stance on some of these segregation policies. Admittedly, I do have a more lax approach than what is considered "strict" segregation. My justification being that we live and work alongside each other all the time and it seems artificial to introduce it at specific times.

I realise these are just words at the moment: "lax", "strict", etc. But I wanted women's opinions on this matter, because - while your standard liberal would equate anti-segregation with freedom - I have a suspicion that some Muslim women like the separate-ness...? I don't know, honestly! All I know is that I can't help but feel sorry for you that you pray in a different room, or sit at the back all the time, or have separate halaqas, etc. Some aspects of segregation are mutual, eg. speaking with one another, even "looking" at one another, but again I'd like your thoughts. Is it offensive that Muslim boys/men ignore you / don't talk to or acknowledge you when walking past, or is it empowering? Do you feel there's something wrong that you you pray Jumu'ah without seeing the Imam, or do you feel protected as a group of women only?


(I also heard women like to talk.. So talk away! Please don't shoot me)

You feel sorry for us? Why oh why when it should be the other way round...

I dont see how us being in a different room makes us inferior to you guys or any less important. In fact we get the VIP room with all the heating while you get one huge room which your all crammed in, you have to sit in there the whole time and if you move a muscle the whole crowd will turn their heads, you'll even get a look in from the camera bechare.

I, like some women prefer the segregation because its more comfortable and we can let our hair down, guess what we can actually breathe without anyone having to look at us just to see who is doing what or why is she doing this or how is she doing it lol. I prefer the privacy

Seeker, I think it depends what type of event your organising. If its a business meeting then make sure there is no segregation but if its for something religious then yep make sure its segregated, we cant be dealing with you guys in the same room.

Hope this helps.