[parvin]

The boy's elder brother's marriage happend to be very complicated and it ended up in court.So the boy is scared that the same thing will happen to him and so he is not getting ready to marry me saying that he is scared.His mother is ready and my parents are also ready.

i did isteqara and isteqara was also postive ALHAMDULILAH. The boy loves me but because of this thing he is very scared.
i am reading wazeefa and doing dua,prayers and all.
please help me what should i do to convince him.give me some wazeefa.

JAZAKALLAH

can i read the dua of DUROOD DAUD ALAIHI SALAM

'Allahumma layyin qalbi fulan binti fulan kama layyintil hadidi li sayyidina Da'ud alayhis 'salam'



do i need permission to read this..pls help.

[parvin]

parvin, on 28 December 2011 - 04:39 PM, said:

The boy's elder brother's marriage happend to be very complicated and it ended up in court.So the boy is scared that the same thing will happen to him and so he is not getting ready to marry me saying that he is scared.His mother is ready and my parents are also ready.

i did isteqara and isteqara was also postive ALHAMDULILAH. The boy loves me but because of this thing he is very scared.
i am reading wazeefa and doing dua,prayers and all.
please help me what should i do to convince him.give me some wazeefa.

JAZAKALLAH

can i read the dua of DUROOD DAUD ALAIHI SALAM

'Allahumma layyin qalbi fulan binti fulan kama layyintil hadidi li sayyidina Da'ud alayhis 'salam'



do i need permission to read this..pls help.

Assalamualikum....
i am eagerly waiting for ur reply regarding my problem ... please reply soon...
Jazakallah Khair

[Gangohi-Ka-Dushman]

Baji Parvin, First of all, Welcome to Yanabi.com Family I hope you will enjoy your stay.

Please be patient, someone will answer your post. Sorry, I dont know so much about these things so I cant help you We have some users full of knowledge and they will solve your problem in just few seconds, like Baji Fatima, Desrt sheikh and Baji The Mughal Sister I hope they will pay some attention to your post

All I can say, just keep doing dua and ask ALLAH to help you through this problem. But remember, All couples are made by ALLAH, and he knows best who will be our life partner, sometime we think something else but ALLAH has decided something else. All we can do, is pray to holy GOD and try our best and leave the rest to ALLAH. He knows best what is best for us and what is bad for us. We should always be thankful to ALLAH

We Yanabi.com family pray for you, that ALLAH help you and make you happy all your life. amen







Ya Ali Madad!

[Shaykh_Kahn]

Asalam Alaykum,

If this is the case i suggest making khatam shareef at home doing some recitations of durood tanjeen 333 times along with surah yasin, surah rahman. After done make dua and ask for help and guidance for the marriage. Also to know if ones dua has been accepted do place sugar in bowl and cover it during the khatam shareef, once all done and dua is done uncover the bowl inshallah you will see name of the prophet or name of allah subhantallah.

Also this is wazeefa you should do and i will give permission for it, inshallah everything will workout in best interest.
If one wants to marry with ones own choice.

After salat Isha reciting his Wazeefa 500 times for 21 days keeping the intention in ones heart will inshalla enable one to get married at his/hers choice.

BISMILLAH IRAHMANIRAHEEM

AGHISNI AGHISNI AGHISNI YA MOGHEESO

Remember to recite Darood Shareef 5 times before and after the Wazeefa.

[The-Mughal-Sister]

Ghulaam-e-Naqshband, on 29 December 2011 - 02:33 PM, said:

Do you not have any sharam at all. What is happening to the younger generation of today? Why do they think it is alright to do such stupid things?

May Allah give you and people like you hidaayat.

Your post was not deleted brother, if it was you would have been informed.

I wished to ask you, rather than judging, pointing fingers and accusing one of stupidity and shamelessness, maybe YOU can give advice, help and support to new users on the site as you are a veteran on this forum.

I thought Muslims would help the other rather than point fingers and mock, what a sad time we live in when the older generation cannot guide the younger generation.

[The-Mughal-Sister]

parvin, on 28 December 2011 - 04:39 PM, said:

The boy's elder brother's marriage happend to be very complicated and it ended up in court.So the boy is scared that the same thing will happen to him and so he is not getting ready to marry me saying that he is scared.His mother is ready and my parents are also ready.

i did isteqara and isteqara was also postive ALHAMDULILAH. The boy loves me but because of this thing he is very scared.
i am reading wazeefa and doing dua,prayers and all.
please help me what should i do to convince him.give me some wazeefa.

JAZAKALLAH

can i read the dua of DUROOD DAUD ALAIHI SALAM

'Allahumma layyin qalbi fulan binti fulan kama layyintil hadidi li sayyidina Da'ud alayhis 'salam'



do i need permission to read this..pls help.

Asslamalikum Dear Sister

Firstly welcome to Yanabi.com. We hope your time at yanabi.com is insightful.

Your post is very vague it doesn't say anything about your relationship with this boy.
Are you married?
Engaged?

Praying to the Almighty for help and assistance is all well and good but remember God is not here for our whims and desires, God is worthy of worship we must remember that.

Marriage, love and boys isn't everything in life, think about yourself, what do you want to do in life? Make yourself a confident, intelligent person so you don't have to throw yourself at others feet to be noticed.

If he doesn't want to get married you cannot force him or make him. Move on.

If it's meant to happen it will.

Fi Amanillah.

This post has been edited by The-Mughal-Sister: 29 December 2011 - 05:37 PM

[Ghulaam-e-Naqshband]

*****
MOD EDIT
What's done is done, nothing we can do about that. So, either advise with sound wisdom or keep your mouth shut. Anymore outbursts and I'll make you regret it.

She hasn't even said anything for you to get overexcited about, so why the ranting and raving?

TMS delete such posts in future and PM a warning. You do not need to offer an explanation when it comes to moderating posts full of harassment. This is totally unacceptable behavior and will not be tolerated.

YC

*****

This post has been edited by YaNabi-Chemist: 29 December 2011 - 09:10 PM

[Shaykh_Kahn]

I dont understand what happended here? she has clearly stated both parents agreed with the marriage and both of them love each other but the boy isnt 100% confident about making the big step due to his brothers relationship having issues after marriage.

I gave her dua and wazeefa for recitation, now reading the posts as if someone has made unprovoked comments towards the sister.

May allah give hidayat.

3 Rules:

1. Read
2. Think
3. Comment

[Sunni-Police]

The brother might have had too many chillis in his food tonight... At least we got a mod who is doing the policing.... Akhi you need to be a bit articulate in your response and mindful of other people's situation, not everyone is perfect.

@Parvin, I make dua Allah swt makes it easy for you in this situation. The best thing you could do is approach a scholar unless someone on this forum can provide an answer to your problem/situation.

[Fatema-the-resplendent]

If he is so scared worrying for something which has no existence kind of shows the trust he has in you. It looks as if he is allowing his own weak nature to cause a rift in your relationship even before it has began. People who are so suspicious and weak in nature may cause further problems ahead for you. I want to know what kind of love is the one in which he is unwilling to get married due to someone else's bad experience?

I'm sorry to say this but the guy is not worth it. I don't believe in such love. Please sis move on.

This post has been edited by Fatema-the-resplendent: 30 December 2011 - 12:04 AM

[Luhif]

I have posted this lecture in a new topic. very good lecture y Sister Yasmin Mogahed, Please listen.


http://olrserenity.p...et-what-i-want/

[Gangohi-Ka-Dushman]

Fatema-the-resplendent, on 30 December 2011 - 12:04 AM, said:

If he is so scared worrying for something which has no existence kind of shows the trust he has in you. It looks as if he is allowing his own weak nature to cause a rift in your relationship even before it has began. People who are so suspicious and weak in nature may cause further problems ahead for you. I want to know what kind of love is the one in which he is unwilling to get married due to someone else's bad experience?

I'm sorry to say this but the guy is not worth it. I don't believe in such love. Please sis move on.

What a wonderful reply, Baji Fatema You just took words of my heart Your post is the answer of the topic Brillian post as usual!

Case closed!





Ya Ali Madad!

[Fekay]

I strongly disagree with above opinions - love perfectionists! You can't just tell someone to MOVE ON because their love doesn't add up laila majnoon standards... FEAR is natural; especally for someone who first hand witnessed his brother's complications! Girl likes boy, boy likes girl, parents agreed, it doesn't get better then this!

Sister, pull strings within the family and sort it out!

[Shaykh_Kahn]

Fekay, on 30 December 2011 - 07:56 PM, said:

I strongly disagree with above opinions - love perfectionists! You can't just tell someone to MOVE ON because their love doesn't add up laila majnoon standards... FEAR is natural; especally for someone who first hand witnessed his brother's complications! Girl likes boy, boy likes girl, parents agreed, it doesn't get better then this!

Sister, pull strings within the family and sort it out!

Strongly agree with you thats why i said read, think, then answer people just jump the guns and make own assumptions up, no wonder the muslims are so divided.

[Fatema-the-resplendent]

I am trying to save the poor girl heartache; it isn't jumping the gun its called discarding what is bad for you.

I just don't think I could marry a guy who professes to love me yet does not want to marry me because his brothers wife (or whoever) did a bad thing to her husband! Please brothers be kind, give the woman in question a genuinely caring advice. Weak men can cause many problems in a marriage for the woman. And trust is an absolute must in a relationship, not marrying someone out of fear or whatever is plain rejection. A woman or man can not maintain self respect after chasing a person who does not want to marry over a silly reason. The silly reason therefore is not the reason for not marrying but rahter the weakness of nature. A poor destitute masculine man is better than a rich, arrogant weak man.

But that is my opinion, everyone is entitled to theirs. Thanks Br GKD, but I honestly meant what I said.

[parvin]

Gangohi-Ka-Dushman, on 29 December 2011 - 02:32 PM, said:

Baji Parvin, First of all, Welcome to Yanabi.com Family I hope you will enjoy your stay.

Please be patient, someone will answer your post. Sorry, I dont know so much about these things so I cant help you We have some users full of knowledge and they will solve your problem in just few seconds, like Baji Fatima, Desrt sheikh and Baji The Mughal Sister I hope they will pay some attention to your post

All I can say, just keep doing dua and ask ALLAH to help you through this problem. But remember, All couples are made by ALLAH, and he knows best who will be our life partner, sometime we think something else but ALLAH has decided something else. All we can do, is pray to holy GOD and try our best and leave the rest to ALLAH. He knows best what is best for us and what is bad for us. We should always be thankful to ALLAH

We Yanabi.com family pray for you, that ALLAH help you and make you happy all your life. amen







Ya Ali Madad!

Assalamaulaikum...
Thanx for the warm welcome...n i am sincerely parying to Allah to help me ....Thanx for the your support dear.... jazakallah n please do remember me in ur prayers .


Jazakallah Khair


Regards
Parvin

[parvin]

Shaykh_Kahn, on 29 December 2011 - 03:28 PM, said:

Asalam Alaykum,

If this is the case i suggest making khatam shareef at home doing some recitations of durood tanjeen 333 times along with surah yasin, surah rahman. After done make dua and ask for help and guidance for the marriage. Also to know if ones dua has been accepted do place sugar in bowl and cover it during the khatam shareef, once all done and dua is done uncover the bowl inshallah you will see name of the prophet or name of allah subhantallah.

Also this is wazeefa you should do and i will give permission for it, inshallah everything will workout in best interest.
If one wants to marry with ones own choice.

After salat Isha reciting his Wazeefa 500 times for 21 days keeping the intention in ones heart will inshalla enable one to get married at his/hers choice.

BISMILLAH IRAHMANIRAHEEM

AGHISNI AGHISNI AGHISNI YA MOGHEESO

Remember to recite Darood Shareef 5 times before and after the Wazeefa.

Walaikumassalam....
Thanx for your so much support and wonderful reply dear.....i will definetely try to make a Khatam Shareef at home as soon as possible....Inshallah.... and as of now i have started the wazifa u have given me and i would like to ask can i start the reading the DUa of Dawood Alaihissallam... please let me know .... Allhumdulillah... please remember me in your prayers.. may Allah grant all ur wishes true... Ameen Thanx for the wonderful help... JAZAKALLAH....k take care Allah Hafiz


Regards
Parvin

[parvin]

parvin, on 31 December 2011 - 05:19 AM, said:

Walaikumassalam....
Thanx for your so much support and wonderful reply dear.....i will definetely try to make a Khatam Shareef at home as soon as possible....Inshallah.... and as of now i have started the wazifa u have given me and i would like to ask can i start the reading the DUa of Dawood Alaihissallam... please let me know .... Allhumdulillah... please remember me in your prayers.. may Allah grant all ur wishes true... Ameen Thanx for the wonderful help... JAZAKALLAH....k take care Allah Hafiz

Regards
Parvin

May Allah reward you and the Ummah plenty of good in this world and hereafter :-) . Ameen

[parvin]

The-Mughal-Sister, on 29 December 2011 - 05:29 PM, said:

Your post was not deleted brother, if it was you would have been informed.

I wished to ask you, rather than judging, pointing fingers and accusing one of stupidity and shamelessness, maybe YOU can give advice, help and support to new users on the site as you are a veteran on this forum.

I thought Muslims would help the other rather than point fingers and mock, what a sad time we live in when the older generation cannot guide the younger generation.

dear Ghulaam-e-Naqshband....



Assalamualikum.....
i totally diagree with u and i request you to not to tell anything if u dont know the entire thing n please dont judge the person because you dont know what ther are going through and its a humble request to you not to telll these things like this if you cant help or sort out or decrease others problem so atleast please dont increase their problem.... please<br class="Apple-interchange-newline">
Regards
parvin

[parvin]

Sunni-Police, on 29 December 2011 - 10:22 PM, said:

The brother might have had too many chillis in his food tonight... At least we got a mod who is doing the policing.... Akhi you need to be a bit articulate in your response and mindful of other people's situation, not everyone is perfect.

@Parvin, I make dua Allah swt makes it easy for you in this situation. The best thing you could do is approach a scholar unless someone on this forum can provide an answer to your problem/situation.

Assalamualikum....
Jazakallah for praying for me dear.. i got so much support n positive help from so many people ....Allhumdulillah ... thanx for your concern ...please you also remember me in you prayers... Jazakallah...May Allah reward you and the Ummah plenty of good in this world and hereafter :-) . Ameen take care Allah Hafiz


Regards
Parvin