[The-Mughal-Sister]

What is Haya?

Haya itself is derived from the word hayat which means life. This term covers a wide number of concepts. In English, it may be translated as modesty, shyness, self-respect, bashfulness, shame, honour, humility, etc. It’s like an ornament of which beatifies a girl, a piece of jewel that no money can buy, no shop can stock and no tailor can stitch, it’s taught, passed down, learned and practised, it’s an art form which is mastered through Islam, of one of the basic needs which a woman should possess, to be a modest Muslimah:

Narrated by Abu Huraira (ra): The Prophet said, "Faith (Belief) consists of more than sixty branches (i.e. parts). And Haya is a part of faith." (Bukhari)

Modesty is part of our character, a part of our faith, something we should be proud to have attained:

Narrated Abdullah ibn Umar (ra): The Prophet (saws) passed by a man who was admonishing his brother regarding Haya and was saying, "You are very shy, and I am afraid that might harm you." On that, Allah's Apostle said, "Leave him, for Haya is (a part) of Faith." (Bukhari)

Now the above hadith is also a form of proof that "shyness" is not just something regarding women but also an attribute that believing men should have, for it is an indication if their fear of Allah and an indication of the value of their Deen, but my thread is emphasising on the girls, the women of today.
There are two forms of Haya, inner and outer:

Inner:
Speech
Actions
Langauge
Mind

Outer:
Dress Code
Walk
Gaze

Haya and Iman are interdependent; therefore either they both exist together or they both perish. Thus, the Prophet (saws) has said in one hadith, "When there is no haya left, then do as you please."

Abdullah ibn Umar (ra) narrated that the Prophet (saw) said: "Indeed haya (modesty) and Iman are Companions. When one of them is lifted, the other leaves as well." (Baihaqi)

Today vulgarity and all its ingredients have become a common place even among well-known Muslims in the zeal of imitating the disbelievers. It is these people who have been struggling to bring Muslim women out of Hijab into immodesty and indecency. They have adopted the lifestyles of the disbelievers more than the traditions of the Prophet (saws). Such people are in a dilemma. On the one hand, they desire to freely look at the half-clad bodies of their wives and daughters of other Muslims on the streets; and on the other hand, they do not have the courage to deny the teachings of the Holy Qur'an and the Prophet (saws). Indulging in indecency for so long has killed the sense of modesty (haya) which Islam had commanded them to preserve.

The Prophet (saws) said: "Haya and Trustworthiness will be the first to go from this world; therefore keep asking Allah for them." (Baihaqi)

In conclusion, the Muslim community has implemented the modest attire for a Muslimah but have bypassed the mannerisms to go with it, their speech vulgar and infused with foul words and brimming with sexual innuendo. The social media generation has exploded, obliterating the ounce of decency left in the Muslim society, now shamelessness has reached a all new height, in front of family members, who ‘like’ such actions, and even the surprised gasp has disappeared.
If the core of the subject is analysed there is a deeper issue of lack of self worth, lack of self respect to throw yourself into the path of a strange man and lure him into sinful activities, to make yourself look and feel better if another is enjoying the carnal nature of your beauty,
So value your decency, your modesty, your manners, it’s what beautifies a woman, it’s one of the core necessities of a girl to make her a lady. Do not indulge in vain or immoral talk, do not inject foul words to make yourself more acceptable to the modern society, if they do not appreciate your decency, then it is them at fault and you need to find new friends who do appreciate the value of modesty, decency, and good manners. Change your friends, not your good habits, because bad friends, can become bad habits and can lead to destruction of the soul.
Narrated on the authority of Anas bin Malik, the Prophet (saw) said: When lewdness is a part of anything, it becomes defective; and when haya is a part of anything it becomes beautiful. (Tirmidhi)

"Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: and Allah is well acquainted with all that they do. And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty……." (Qur'an: Surah Nur, 30-31)

[Fatema-the-resplendent]

It reminds me of the saying of Hazrat Fatema SA in which she States to the question what is best for Women, 'she must not see a man and man does not see her'. Looking and gazing into peoples eyes, flirting openly, and behaving lewdly leads to many greater sins, so basically lowering the gaze is a protection. So many sins can be avoided by Women just by following this, although I do believe that men can learn from this saying too, considering Haya is a respectable human quality.

Haya and modesty can only be required by a Woman whose needs are secured in the home (in the practical sense). So I think a happy marriage shields one against much bad.

[qalam]

The-Mughal-Sister, on 02 November 2011 - 07:06 PM, said:

What is Haya?

Haya itself is derived from the word hayat which means life. This term covers a wide number of concepts. In English, it may be translated as modesty, shyness, self-respect, bashfulness, shame, honour, humility, etc. It’s like an ornament of which beatifies a girl, a piece of jewel that no money can buy, no shop can stock and no tailor can stitch, it’s taught, passed down, learned and practised, it’s an art form which is mastered through Islam, of one of the basic needs which a woman should possess, to be a modest Muslimah:

Narrated by Abu Huraira (ra): The Prophet said, "Faith (Belief) consists of more than sixty branches (i.e. parts). And Haya is a part of faith." (Bukhari)

Modesty is part of our character, a part of our faith, something we should be proud to have attained:

Narrated Abdullah ibn Umar (ra): The Prophet (saws) passed by a man who was admonishing his brother regarding Haya and was saying, "You are very shy, and I am afraid that might harm you." On that, Allah's Apostle said, "Leave him, for Haya is (a part) of Faith." (Bukhari)

Now the above hadith is also a form of proof that "shyness" is not just something regarding women but also an attribute that believing men should have, for it is an indication if their fear of Allah and an indication of the value of their Deen, but my thread is emphasising on the girls, the women of today.
There are two forms of Haya, inner and outer:

Inner:
Speech
Actions
Langauge
Mind

Outer:
Dress Code
Walk
Gaze

Haya and Iman are interdependent; therefore either they both exist together or they both perish. Thus, the Prophet (saws) has said in one hadith, "When there is no haya left, then do as you please."

Abdullah ibn Umar (ra) narrated that the Prophet (saw) said: "Indeed haya (modesty) and Iman are Companions. When one of them is lifted, the other leaves as well." (Baihaqi)

Today vulgarity and all its ingredients have become a common place even among well-known Muslims in the zeal of imitating the disbelievers. It is these people who have been struggling to bring Muslim women out of Hijab into immodesty and indecency. They have adopted the lifestyles of the disbelievers more than the traditions of the Prophet (saws). Such people are in a dilemma. On the one hand, they desire to freely look at the half-clad bodies of their wives and daughters of other Muslims on the streets; and on the other hand, they do not have the courage to deny the teachings of the Holy Qur'an and the Prophet (saws). Indulging in indecency for so long has killed the sense of modesty (haya) which Islam had commanded them to preserve.

The Prophet (saws) said: "Haya and Trustworthiness will be the first to go from this world; therefore keep asking Allah for them." (Baihaqi)

In conclusion, the Muslim community has implemented the modest attire for a Muslimah but have bypassed the mannerisms to go with it, their speech vulgar and infused with foul words and brimming with sexual innuendo. The social media generation has exploded, obliterating the ounce of decency left in the Muslim society, now shamelessness has reached a all new height, in front of family members, who ‘like’ such actions, and even the surprised gasp has disappeared.
If the core of the subject is analysed there is a deeper issue of lack of self worth, lack of self respect to throw yourself into the path of a strange man and lure him into sinful activities, to make yourself look and feel better if another is enjoying the carnal nature of your beauty,
So value your decency, your modesty, your manners, it’s what beautifies a woman, it’s one of the core necessities of a girl to make her a lady. Do not indulge in vain or immoral talk, do not inject foul words to make yourself more acceptable to the modern society, if they do not appreciate your decency, then it is them at fault and you need to find new friends who do appreciate the value of modesty, decency, and good manners. Change your friends, not your good habits, because bad friends, can become bad habits and can lead to destruction of the soul.
Narrated on the authority of Anas bin Malik, the Prophet (saw) said: When lewdness is a part of anything, it becomes defective; and when haya is a part of anything it becomes beautiful. (Tirmidhi)

"Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: and Allah is well acquainted with all that they do. And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty……." (Qur'an: Surah Nur, 30-31)

salam

a nice article.

where di you get it from?
very nice mashallah!!

dr aq

[The-Mughal-Sister]

qalam, on 03 November 2011 - 05:10 PM, said:

salam

a nice article.

where di you get it from?
very nice mashallah!!

dr aq

JazakAllah Kheir for your appreciation.

I can proudly say this article was written, researched and composed by me.

An epiphany which sparked off some questions and the final result, my post.

PS: If you like my thread that much, you can display your appreciation by voting for it, it doesn't hurt and you'll feel great afterwards!

This post has been edited by The-Mughal-Sister: 03 November 2011 - 05:37 PM

[badman]

The-Mughal-Sister, on 03 November 2011 - 05:32 PM, said:

JazakAllah Kheir for your appreciation.

I can proudly say this article was written, researched and composed by me.

An epiphany which sparked off some questions and the final result, my post.

PS: If you like my thread that much, you can display your appreciation by voting for it, it doesn't hurt and you'll feel great afterwards!..... 'no wonder the ummah is in this state'

Salams,

You forgot to write - 'no wonder the ummah is in this state'!!! not to worry av done it for you, LolZ

Masha'ALLAH nice post, keep it up! (Thumbs Up)

Haya and Modesty is quite an attractive trait (in males and females)

[SikandarB]

The-Mughal-Sister, on 02 November 2011 - 07:06 PM, said:

There are two forms of Haya, inner and outer:

Inner:
Speech
Actions
Langauge
Mind

Outer:
Dress Code
Walk
Gaze

A bit of clarification I suppose: How are ‘Speech’, ‘Actions’, and ‘Language’ the inner aspects?

On face value, one would think speech is outer but let's look deeper into this issue. Speech is vocal, spoken but the words come from the heart and the mind, so what you are feeling, your state of mind, who you interact with, what type of material you watch read, discuss all this influences you and hence brings out a positive or negative dialog. It's all connected, heart, mind, langauge and speech

That is why the issue of being around good, honest, and decent friends and company is important, their good or bad traits can rub off you knowing or unknowingly, hence corrupting or influencing in a positive way.

Think about it.

This post has been edited by The-Mughal-Sister: 03 November 2011 - 09:02 PM

[qalam]

The-Mughal-Sister, on 03 November 2011 - 05:32 PM, said:

JazakAllah Kheir for your appreciation.

I can proudly say this article was written, researched and composed by me.

An epiphany which sparked off some questions and the final result, my post.

PS: If you like my thread that much, you can display your appreciation by voting for it, it doesn't hurt and you'll feel great afterwards!

salam

if you want my gratitude - remember it is only temporary and not worthy of any merit But if you want the reward with Allah and then dont ask for any gratitutde from any man! - Dr Aq


O yeah no wonder the ummah is in this state - every thing that we do is for the graciousness of fellow men and nor for the benevlence of the lord

dr aq

[Know-the-Ledge]

Sikander Bravo, I'm non-plussed at your post...Did Tms write that 'clarification'?

The tongue and speech, comes under external law. Thoughts come under internal law.

[SikandarB]

Know-The-Ledge, on 03 November 2011 - 10:42 PM, said:

Sikander Bravo, I'm non-plussed at your post...Did Tms write that 'clarification'?

The tongue and speech, comes under external law. Thoughts come under internal law.

Yes she did.

I think what she means is to put it emblematically ‘He wears good clothes but has no manners’; since, speech and language are usually spontaneous reactions they are a degree high accurate description of the state-of-mind.

The problem is with the use of terminology of inner and outer; speech and language are not much different (if there’s any difference at all) and can be categorized as ‘actions’ and so will both gaze and walking fall under the ambit of actions. What is probably meant here then is: that haya has different dimensions – the more apparent of these are appearance, actions and the mind. What is needed then is to bring all these dimensions in harmony so that they reflect a symphonic whole – the very reflection of tawhid

In my purview, domain of the mind is internal only on the surface and that is what makes it hazardous because of its decorum as being internal, semblance of trueness but in fact this where the ‘I’ resides.

DS, oh no I mean PS: Please do not edit posts to reply.

[The-Mughal-Sister]

Brother Sikander, if you can add onto my post, improve certain aspects an enlighten us more, I would only be grateful.

This is not about who says what better, it's about educating others to act, to speak and behave better.

All views welcome.

This post has been edited by The-Mughal-Sister: 04 November 2011 - 12:06 PM

[qalam]

The-Mughal-Sister, on 04 November 2011 - 12:05 PM, said:

Brother Sikander, if you can add onto my post, improve certain aspects an enlighten us more, I would only be grateful.

This is not about who says what better, it's about educating others to act, to speak and behave better.

All views welcome.

salam

very good post


dr aq