Asalaam o alaoykum
Brother, have some respect
we have many brothers and sisters who use this forum, they are from "back home"
My reply is for them, please have respect for your fellow brothers and sisters
simply, your someone i describe as a coward!
YOU should have been a real man and spoke up at the first instance, why did you marry her? YOU should have got to know about her more.
let me tell you something about the "freshies from back home"
Many of our great teachers and guides, our murshids are what you call " freshies from back home", behind them are great women, mothers who carried them for 9 months, wives who were the inspiration behind their work.
The best answer to your cowardly post is from our beloved prophet salalahu alahi wasalams last sermon!
Nabi salalahu alahi wasalam said,
People, it is true that you have certain rights with regard to your women, but they also have rights over you. Remember that you have taken them as your wives only under Allah's trust and with His permission. If they abide by your right then to them belongs the right to be fed and clothed in kindness. Do treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers. And it is your right that they do not make friends with any one of whom you do not approve, as well as never to be unchaste.
You have to ask yourself why you did nikah with this women, what was your intention? Did you marry her because abu jee said? When you did nikah and the khutba was read and you were asked 3 times, i believe you said yes yes yes!
There is no doubt that some marriages will not work but that does not give you the right to blame everyone from Pakistan.
All mankind is from Adam and Eve, an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; also a white has no superiority over black nor a black has any superiority over white except by piety and good action. Learn that every Muslim is a brother to every Muslim and that the Muslims constitute one brotherhood. Nothing shall be legitimate to a Muslim which belongs to a fellow Muslim unless it was given freely and willingly. Do not, therefore, do injustice to yourselves
Nabi salalahu alahiwasalam has made it clear nobody is more superior then others except in piety.
Your country of residence does not make you the scum of this earth.
I am very upset with the nature of some of the replies on this post, we have forgotton that Allah has placed us in this country and that it is not because we are any better. What troubles me is that many of our elders have come from pakistan as freshies, we have no respect.
Allah has given us our spouses and given us joy, if Allah wills we can be tested, our relationships can become difficult so be grateful to Allah, We are happy and content only because Allah has made it possible.
Their are people from back home who are closer to Allah and his messanger than any of us can ever be, do not be ungrateful.
My murshid came from pakistan, they did in less than a year what the british teachers could not in 17 years of my life.
may Allah give us understanding