[YaRasoolAllah786]

Is there any dua or wazeefa. i really like this guy but we have stopped taking to each other. is there any wazeefa i can read for him to marry me and love me again i really want to marry him. I want him to love and care for me the way he used to.


Please brothers and sisters for the love of prophet muhammed sallalho wa alaihi wasalam help me in this matter I pray for the well being of all of .

Please i am in a desperate situation

Jazakhallah khair

I pray  5 times a day alahmdullilla and have done Istikhara and have had postive results please help in any way.

[Know-the-Ledge]

Let's take it back, you know how far back? Waaaaay back!

Let me tell you something about the nature of boys and men. There's no bigger kick that we like, than to have women falling at our feet and begging us to take them. It may have something to do with our alpha male needs and gratify's us in a way which not even an open car bonnet gratify's us, or a bench press competition.

Basically, the more desperate you become, the more you gratify us and the more we want to experience that buzz and elation of girls falling for us like a sucker punch.

The more desperation you show, the more unhinged you seem and the more you push us away.  The more you become an object of ridicule and sorrow and the more you seem as being an overly reliant and obssesive character.

My advice to you, is slow down and let life find its own course, sometimes, it's better not to force but to ride the storm.  The best wazifa is patience, the best dua is sabr.

IN a short time, you'll be laughing at what all the fuss was about!

Believe me, i've been there and got the parking ticket.

[YaRasoolAllah786]

Jazakhallah brother I havent called him for months now and i wont as i do have my own pride

I have sabar inshAllah do dua for me

[jalvaa]

If he ignore u so must also ignore him. U must kick him on his ****. Continue with ur life and do dua that u find someone good who never igonre u. Be happy dear!

[Abdul09]

Asalaam Alai Kum

@Ss A

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'  i really like this guy but we have stopped taking to each other. is there any wazeefa i can read for him to marry me and love me again i really want to marry him. I want him to love and care for me the way he used to.'


From your post it seem's that you have had a relationship out of marriage.
Please tell me if I'm deadly wrong !

A = Are you happy with having a relationship out of marriage knowing all well you claim to pray 5 times a day.

B = Id this guy a practising Muslim like yourself ?

C = Is the guy married or was it just a college thing for him ?

D = Have you really, I mean really thought about spending the rest of your life with him ?

E = Has he made any vows desiring to spend the rest of his life with you ?

F = Does either of your parent's know about this relationship ?

Wasalaam Alai Kum

[YaRasoolAllah786]

 

[Just_Ahsun]

Please tell me if I'm deadly wrong !

Assalamu Alaikum, you are indeed brother. Love and caring doesn't necessary have just one definition which we all think of. The sister clearly mentions she has sabar and read her prayer.Furthermore, shes eager to adopt the sweet sunnah of marriage so lets not create any dishonoring remarks which might diminish her dignity as she came here for comfort trusting us with her feelings.

Sister, consider the advice of brother KTL throughly as I wouldn't have commented anything better than my dearest brother above. May Allah through the Waseela of the Beloved ease your hardships and distress.

Edit: You mentioned that you don't talk anymore but what I would like to know is did you tell him to marry you ASAP? What was his reaction to marriage? Have you spoken yet to your family about it? Do you think you parents/gaurdians would accept him as your husband?
And lastly, which you might not feel comfortable with answering, any particular reason for the break-up?

As were missing quite a lot of facts it hard to assess your situation to full and suggest you anything apart from sabr in the Will of Allah.

[YaRasoolAllah786]

i would just like ur dua

my parents disagreed due to our caste difference

he sent his mum to my house for my parents to tell them that we r diff castes

Its up to Allah swt but i am a mere servant of Allah just requesting my brothrs and sisters for dua I am ashamed of brother Ghamkoli of what he thinks but att the end of the day I face Allah not him

[zulfkar3333]

Originally posted by: Ss A

i would just like ur dua my parents disagreed due to our caste differencehe sent his mum to my house for my parents to tell them that we r diff castesIts up to Allah swt but i am a mere servant of Allah just requesting my brothrs and sisters for dua I am ashamed of brother Ghamkoli of what he thinks but att the end of the day I face Allah not him

Maybe the guy's parents told him to stay away from you due to how your parents treated them? Have you ever thought about that?

[YaRasoolAllah786]

jazakhallah khair brother usman ur advice is sincerely good u have taken a burden of my heart may Allah help u in every way and bring u hapiness

Salams

[YaRasoolAllah786]

brother usman

how long do i read this or do i read this everyday ?

jazakhallah

[YaRasoolAllah786]

inshAllah i will do jazkhallah bro.  I couldnt find a small duroood sharif so i just do dua ibraheem the long standard one is this ok ? at the moment i read durood sharif 100 times everyday and another zikar whihc my hadrat sahib have given me to read 2

what is durood e moqadas > hav u got it on interent or something as i cant find it anywhere

appreciate it !

Thanks

[malaikah]

This was given to me by an imam..AND IT WORKS SOOOOO GOOOOD

Try to recite the following du'a at least 100 times a day:

'Allahumma layyin qalbi fulan binti fulan kama layyintil hadidi li sayyidina Da'ud alayhis 'salam'

Where it stated 'fulan ibn-e-fulan', you must say the name of the person involved, and her/his mothers name (for example if the boys' name is Saad and his mothers name is Asma, you will say "Saad ibn-e-Asma"... okey?..).
This wazifa is very effective, and melts hearts, just as lead was molten for the Prophet Da'ud alayhis 'salam.


and its very good if u read darood sharif in the beginning and in the end of this dua...it helps more
AND YOU HAVE TO DO IT WITH WUZUU, EVEN A LITTLE NAPAKI CAN LEAD TO SIDE EFFECTS!!!!!
i was in the same situation as you...he was a very stone cold person..
but he dies for me now and we r even getting married soon inshAllah hehe

[YaRasoolAllah786]

salam walaikum

jazkahallah sister u dint understand i am goiung thru hell i wake up every morning and read tahajjud namaz 2 i dont know maybe this is  a test but he is sooooooo COLD he will not talk to me at all even if i call him he says its for the best and i shud move on but u  know what i cant iv tried and i cant i feel so helpless ...

theres is so much in the quran for every problm there is a solution i hope inshallah he comes back after what u told me  to read

pleas remember me in ur dua hun i pray it all works out for u dear !
XX

jazkahallah usman for ur help !

[Just_Ahsun]

Originally posted by: Ss A

salam walaikum

jazkahallah sister u dint understand i am goiung thru hell i wake up every morning and read tahajjud namaz 2 i dont know maybe this is a test but he is sooooooo COLD he will not talk to me at all even if i call him he says its for the best and i shud move on but u know what i cant iv tried and i cant i feel so helpless ...

theres is so much in the quran for every problm there is a solution i hope inshallah he comes back after what u told me to read

pleas remember me in ur dua hun i pray it all works out for u dear !
XX

jazkahallah usman for ur help !

Assalamu Alaikum, sister I hope your in good health and iman. I am replying to you related to the two sentences you wrote underline above. I hope you would take heed my advise positively and not get offended in any manner. I am not here to judge you, but I am trying to understand you from what you have said so far and nourish your understanding of your relation with Allah Azzawajal and His Beloved .

Firstly, I am really glad you have adopted the sweet sunnah of Tahajud and pray that everthing goes smoothly for you. But, from what I see, you are spending you energy for a creation whom you describe as being 'cold' rather that for the pleasure of the Almighty Creator Who loves His "sinful" creation more than 70 time that of the love of mother for her childrens.

Slowdown yourself and ask, would you still continue with the above act if you wishes weren't fulfilled as you expected them to be? Or get dis hearted and remove the trust you are slowly building in your Lord?

Would you still continue with the above if your wishes does get fulfilled, ie you got what you wanted and your content with it which has got a selfish attitude behind it?

Wouldn't you want to build an unconditional trust and love with your Creator which doesn't has personal gains with it? Something which you can expect to be returned back with more than you can grasp !!

Life is short sister, but sometimes take your time slow down with things and have a thought over it even if it takes you a bit longer its still worth it.

Something I will leave you with, and would like to hear your views before saying anything further.

'O God, if I worship Thee for fear of Hell, burn me in Hell..
and if I worship Thee in hope of Paradise, exclude me from Paradise;
but if I worship Thee for Thy own sake, grudge me not Thy everlasting beauty..'

(Prayer Of Hazrat Rabe'a Basri