By Shammah Bakir
Mother, beneath whose feet lies paradise. Daughter, who is the mercy of Allah. Sister, who is the honour of the family. Wife, who is the jewel of the home. All these are facades of the great personality known as woman.
The woman who had no worth before Islam. She was buried alive soon after birth, as her arrival signified disgrace and humiliation. Islam gave her respect and greatness. Consequently, as a mother she was presented with a status much higher than that of a father, and has given birth to some of the greatest prophets and saints.
The beloved prophet (Peace be upon Him) said, "Oh Muslims, the example of the following four women should suffice for every generation of your women: Hadhrat Maryam (mother of Hadhrat Isa Alai hisallam), Hadhrat Khadja-tal-Kubra, Hadhrat Fatima- al-Zahra, and Hadhrat Asiya (wife of the Pharaoh)." (Tirmidhi)
Let us contemplate the importance of this example. Hadhrat Khadija was one of the richest amongst the Arabs. Once she married, she sacrificed all her wealth for Islam and for the love of her Husband. She lived a happy life with patience and gratitude.
Then there is Hadhrat Fatima, who whilst she lived in her father's home, she valued her father's love and affection above anything else in the world. After her marriage, her husband's home became everything. She raised her children through sheer struggle and graft, but her tongue never uttered a word of complaint.
The status quo in society is achieved only as a result of woman's faithfulness, modesty and her sacrifices. She maintains a systematic order in the home, and her knowledge and skills can illuminate it. Whilst she grows up in her parental home, she dutifully abides by her parents wishes. Following marriage she transfers this loyalty to her husband. Once she becomes a mother, she becomes the purveyor of abundant love for her offspring.
The Almighty Allah (Azzawajjal) has entrusted the guardianship of woman to man, initially in the guise of a father, then in the shape of a brother and then as a husband. Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon Him) stated, "A woman is like a flower. Her purpose is not just to server you. Her time in your home is but one stage of her life. Take care of all her needs. Do not burden her with more than she can manage and do not subject her to hardship or injustice."
Scholars reommend that from a young age girls should be nurtured to be modest and faithful, and educated and trained in the skills of life. Society is in need of great personalities as mothers of the future. It is a shame to see that materialism and fashion worship has blinded mankind, as a result of which we are leading our own children astray.
My sincere request to young girls is that if you want to be respected in this life, and also please Allah (Azzawajjal) and obey the wishes of Prophet Muhammad (Peace be Upon Him), then adorn yourself with shame and modesty, value your honour and dignity, and learn to live a life of contentment, patience and gratitude.
Source: Translated from an urdu article authored by Shammah Bakir.
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