Tips to a Better Marriage

Tips to a Better Marriage "And among His Signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts). Verily in that are Signs for those who reflect" (30: 21). The listed are some rules that may benefit those seeking an Islamic marriage, as well as, those who are already married. 1. Be conscious of your physical appearance. No one was more conscious of this than the Prophet (saw). His Sunnah reflects keen attention to personal hygiene and good grooming. He kept himself strong and muscular. 2. Be a companion to your mate. Try to show enthusiasm for your spouse's interests and hobbies. It is well-known that the Prophet (saw) would run races with 'Ayesha (ra). By all means try to involve your mate in your interests. 3. Be active in Islamic community life. This will strengthen your commitment to Islam while providing you wish a wholesome social outlet. Encourage your spouse to engage in activities that promote Islam. Have dinners at your home for Muslims as well as non-Muslims, and don't neglect your relatives. These activities will indirectly enhance the quality of your marriage through widening your circle of activity and contacts. 4. Admit your mistakes and have a forgiving, generous attitude when your mate errs. Be quick to admit your shortcomings and work to amend them. Be understanding when your mate does not live up to the Islamic ideal and gently try to motivate him or her in the right direction. 5. Have a sense of humour. Be able to chuckle at life's minor aggravations. 6. Be modest when around members of the opposite gender. Do not try to
test your spouse's affection by feigning interest in another. This will only cause dissension and bad feelings. 7. Share household duties. Brothers, take note. This is especially important these days when women work outside the home. The Prophet (saw) always helped his wives around the house and even mended his own clothes. Who knows? You might find you actually like preparing the evening meal or taking care of junior so your wife can have the afternoon off. The Messenger of Allah said, "The most perfect of the believers in faith is the best of them in moral excellence, and the best of you are the kindest of you to their wives" (at-Tirmidhi). 8. Surprise each other with gifts. There are no words to describe the lift this
can give to a marriage. 9. Communicate your feelings to one another, good and bad. Tell him how handsome he looks. Where there is disagreement, have an open discussion. Don't collect red stamps. Nip it in the bud. 10. Live within your means. Stay away from credit cards if you can. Sisters, take note. Don't envy the possessions of your friends, and belittle your husband because he can't provide them for you. Muslim couples will do well to stay away from ostentatious living. The Prophet (saw) did not live this way, neither should you. 11. Respect your mate's need for privacy. A quiet time to oneself, either at home or away from home, each day can make a disagreeable person agreeable. 12. Don't share personal problems with others. There are a few exceptions to this rule, but if you must discuss personal problems, make sure it is with a person in whom you have the utmost confidence. If you have a learned Muslim brother or sister in your community, seek him or her out first. 13. Be sensitive to your mate's moods. If you want to share a personal
achievement, don't do it when your spouse is 'down in the dumps'.
Wait for the proper time. =-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-= Our Lord! Grant unto us wives and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead righteous. Qur'an 25:74 "The whole world is an asset and the best asset is a good wife" (Muslim)

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