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No need to apologise...And thanks I've finally managed to change the avatar  Many thanks to alll for the replies much appreciated
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Waxing Gibbous
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Vill420 (23.06.2009)
Well I'm from Birmingham...Do you know if any of the sisters are from Brum..?Contact this sister... http://www.yanabi.com/forum/UserInfo25984.aspx
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Sheikh Abd Al-Basit Abd As-Samad 1927-1988
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Waxing Gibbous
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| I also fear tentative when it comes to paying for something at the counter. I'll do everything else, but when it comes to payment, i'll just give the money to a friend and tell him to 'just deal with it yaraa'. Maybe you're not agrophobic, but just alittle on the shy side,deal with it with unstoppable positive thinking, whenever I feel tentative, I slap a hard surface whilst angrily shouting "so what? What's the worst that can happen? he's not going to bite my head off whole is he?". it helps to defeat the negative thoughts and reduces the palpitations of nervousness. Don't give up your personal power by using dis-empowering language. Turn it around, don't say "This is scary", say "According to me.....". This forces you to recognise that your reactions aren't absolute truths and are simply relative reactions. You have to gain empowerment upon your emotions once again, because you've lost it. Go stand in a queue and whisper to yourself, this isn't bad, i'm just feeling nervous, but I shouldn't be etc for added courage bang on the dashboard of your car whilst screaming, "i'm going to do this and nobody can say nothing to me". Completely let go of the past, tell yourself, that "i'm not going to be so hard on myself...everyone makes mistakes, i've messed up, but SO WHAT? Even the Queen's stool stinks, i've made mistakes, i've been nervous, but i was a different person then and i'm not going to spend my life beating myself up about things I did when I was juvenile and insecure."
May Allah increase my enviers.
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Many thanks for your reply
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Waxing Crescent
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As-salaamu` alaykum Wa-Rakmatullahi Wa-Barakaatuhu sis,
Just to let you know Sister Asfoor Ul Madinah is currently gone abroad and she will not be back for another two weeks. She is a very close friend of mine, Insha-Allah Ta'ala we will link up with you soon.
Kindest Regards
Talibah
I am sinful, I am disobedient, but i still belong to You [Sallallahu Alayhi Wassallam]
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Waxing Gibbous
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| Go to quiet area or room, where nobody can hear you Start screaming at the top of your voice, telling yourself positive things and defeating the negative one's. Such as, "I will do it, who is there to stop me? Why not? I will?" etc bang a wall or kick a table. Be more aggressive and for once, experience the elation of coming out of your timidity. Try it, it's very therepeautic, I talk to myself all the time, though i'm alittle un-hinged and not a good model, but it really does help in working things out!
May Allah increase my enviers.
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Know The Ledge (25.06.2009)
Go to quiet area or room, where nobody can hear youStart screaming at the top of your voice, telling yourself positive things and defeating the negative one's. Such as, "I will do it, who is there to stop me? Why not? I will?" etc bang a wall or kick a table. Be more aggressive and for once, experience the elation of coming out of your timidity. Try it, it's very therepeautic, I talk to myself all the time, though i'm alittle un-hinged and not a good model, it really does work in working things out! Wow KTL you are giving really a good advices.I know it really works. Psychologically ur every point absolutely correct. Even i also talk to myself,one day i was on the terace and talking with myself and i was very lost in talking with myself that i didnt see that some of the boys were looking at me.but i dont care i just kept onnnnn. It was intresting.but these days i dont get time to even to talk to myself.How sad......... Keep on
Ya Allah send your peace and blessing on the Final Prophet and his family and his companions and those who follow him.
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New Moon
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| Walaikum-salaam Wa-Rakmatullahi Wa-Barakaatuhu, Thanks for letting me know sis. Look forward to meeting up with you... Couldn't come online yesterday my msn was playing up... thanks again ******************************************************** Will definitely try the screaming at the top of my voice...here's hoping it will do me some good... Many thanks to you for the reply
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Waxing Gibbous
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zarqa (25.06.2009)Wow KTL you are giving really a good advices.I know it really works.
He really is great isn’t he? But that wasn’t the case a few years ago, you see not many of you know this but the personality we know today as the legendarily KTL of Yanabi.com was once upon a time a bag of emotional wrack, I am telling you the guy was hopeless. He had lot of goals and big dreams but he use to loose motivation very easily and over the smallest things, eventually that lead to his supporters, his families and like to loose faith in him and every where he went people use to say how he is a waste and that he will never accomplish anything in his life. Boy I am telling you that really got to him and he was in a situation more or less to what our sister Villacharsobis is going through at the current moment. So anyway the moment came where he believed that his existence in this life is nothing but an accident and that he will never be a man in his life, all hopes and dreams were fading from him. It was at that moment I felt pity for that guy and just slapped him in the face and said “The greatest pleasure in life is trying to achieve what people say you cannot achieve!...” and the rest as the say is history and voila today in front of you is a great personality in the form of KTL, although some may argue that it was only thanks to me but anyway……. And my sis today I have another advice for you so I hope you take your time understanding it and honor it just as KTL did and you never know yaar, you just never know. I don’t know what the key to success is, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone!! Try and achieve your dreams, if you fall then raise yourself up girl, the sun never stays down once it goes to its resting place hell no, it rises back up bringing light and hope and like that you must carry on until you achieve your dream and even if you don’t achieve your dream, atleast you will have the satisfaction to say well atleast I tried what did you do? But let me tell you something only do it for yourself, for those who supported you and Thy Lord, because if try to go and please everyone then that will lead to your eventual failer. Best of luck with your future, may Thy Lord bless you.
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