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Situation with my wife and feeling sudical

Virtual particle — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 11:47:48 GMT

Hi...

[b]Background:[/b]
When I was about 18 I went to Pakistan, and one of my cousins (we will call her Salma) one day while I was sitting watching TV throw a folded up paper into my lap. So I opened it, and it was a love letter, I was shocked to find out she felt like this about me, I eventually responded back to her and told her to wait a few more years, I told her I liked her. In any-case after a few weeks of letter exchanges, I had to come back to England. I eventually told my dad that I wanted to marry her so I told my dad to tell her dad but my dad said no. Since I was drinking, did not have a job.

In any-case after a few months I convinced my mom to ask Salma's mom, so my mom did, and her mother said she would think about it. Since her mother wanted her to marry another person (we will call him Khalid), since his family was more rich and he was educated and also liked her daughter. I was upset about this, and shouted at my mom and dad.

A few years had passed, I was doing the same thing, drinking/drugs/girls no job.

One day we get a phone call from Salma's dad and he was going insane, cursing at me saying he would kill me. What had happened was Salma's little brother was snooping around in Salma's college books, and he found my photos in her book. So he took the photos to his dad, and Salma's dad beat her up for having my photos.

So after this had happened (only our families know about it) Salma's dad decided to get Salma married to Khalid, but Salma refused to agree to getting married and she said she would jump in the well.

So her father told her, she can never marry me. Anyway a few more years had passed my sisters were in Pakistan on a holiday enjoying themselves, and asked me to come, so my mom and dad allowed me to go too. So I went there met Salma's dads I could tell he did not like me much but he had no option he could not say anything to me.

I met Salma on the same day she had really grown up and I was really attracted to her and I could see she was to, me as well since she was always smiling at me and cooking for me (we were living at her house at the time) her mom used to joke about saying she never did cooking now that you are her she is always cooking, does not let anyone else feed you. Me and Salma during that time did not talk since it was frowned upon.

Anyway, eventually I had enough and Salma was in one of the rooms doing the ironing and I went into the room, we started talking, she held my hand etc... And we could hear someone coming, so she ran off into another room left me in the middle of nowhere and her grandmother comes into the room, and shouts at me (she thought I must by spying on Salma) so she flung walking stick at me it just missed me so I ran out of the room.

Anyway next day, when the grandma was sleeping - and everyone was out of the house cutting the grass, Salma was at home doing the housework. Salma walked passed me and whispered to me to meet her in one of the rooms. So I did and we started talking and she told me she wanted to marry me, I told her the same and we just hugged each other, and she told me, she said we can't meet anymore like this, it is [i]haraam[/i] for us; she said we need to get married. And she said she wanted to marry me after 2 years after she finishes her education. So I agreed.

Later on I was thinking about it and I thought two years was too long... I said to myself I want to marry her now. So I went and told my older sister about it (who was also in Pakistan) and she shouted at me, saying things like: "you don't have a job, you don't work, and you have no money" I promised her saying I would go back and find a job. So she went and told my mom about it, and my mom said lets get him married if he wants to get married.

So my mom sent my dad to Pakistan, my dad was cursing at me saying I have embarrassed him, eventually he went to Salma's dad and told him about the situation, and her father said no, unless if we give him lots of land which my dad owned.

Eventually, I got my dad to agree to it.

So we were engaged, so they said we will just do a symbolic nikah (not a real one) and then wedding after two years, when she leaves college I thought OK, until I found out that we will not be able to sleep in the same room or do any of the things a husband and wife can do. Since there was no real nikah.

I insisted on a real nikah, eventually they agreed to a full-blown wedding, as long as I did not take Salma out of college, and allowed her to finish her education (which I would have anyway) so we went to a pir, and he did that star thing and gave us date for the wedding.

[b]So we got married. Then the problems started.

I realized it was not just about me anymore it was also about her, for example if I wanted to go to the city she would be really upset with me, since all day she would be at home while I was out in the city. She started saying I did not care about her (you know typical women things) then she would stop talking to me, eventually I was fed up with her attitude. She wanted me to stop smoking, and drinking. I told her she knew how I was like before she got married to me.

anyway I came back to England and started looking for a job I found a par-time job in a pharmacy, but that was not enough to bring her over. I couldn't do other jobs, I quit them I couldn't save money etc...

Then on the phone she would be really moody about it, saying to me why I am calling her etc, when I don't care about her... Then she stopped talking to me, she would hand up on me if I called her. Eventually I was so mad, and started drinking more...

Then after about 8 months of her not talking to me, I said enough is enough, so I got a ticket to Pakistan I went over there, I was so mad with her... When I came to her house she did not even come to meet me, I asked her mom were she was and her mom told me she was in one of the rooms, so I went into the room and I found her there, she had a knife on her and she would not talk to me, my anger had come off by then I figured she was really upset, so I talked to her and eventually got her round to talking to me.

She told me she had the knife that if I touched her she would stab me, I told her she was being crazy and going mental, and she told me she was mental in my love etc.

So I stayed with her for 4 months, and we had a really good time, I started loving her more, when I got back to England eventually started doing the same thing, drinking no job, and I was drinking more because I had no job, then I was scared to ring my wife since she would ask me if I found a job... Now it has been 8 months I have not called her... I feel sick when I think about calling her since I have no job. I have been drinkin so much...

Sometimes I think it was not meant for us to, be together. I feel so heart broken thinking about how she would be feeling, I really love her, but I don't have a job to get her a visa. I noticed one thing...

No one wants to help either I have relatives who have businesses who could easily help me but they don't want to they want to see me fail that is desis for you. I am sick and tired of it all...

and I am thinking about committing suicide, writing a letter stating that my wife should be allowed to re-marry after my death. I just want to end it all.

I can't live like this, I am £300 in debt no one wants to help me. And I can't do anything without a job.
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Sorry about this being so long.

Not returning Salam - and other issues

Mohammad_Ali — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 09:44:34 GMT

Assalam O Alaikum dear brothers,

My question may seem odd but it does address a certain black and white mentality which people seem to hold on certain religious practices. I've heard that its wajib to return the Salam with an equable or better greeting and have even had the misfortune of being 'happy salamed' by people to be condemned for not replying soon enough or not replying at all.

I understand that the Salam is not given to a disbeliever as it is not just a greeting but a prayer a prayer that ALlah grant peace to the one addressed and any prayer made should be sincere. I'm referring to instances when one doesn't return the 'obligated' returning of Salam. People might argue whats the harm in it and why would you not reply to someone who makes a greeting of peace to you.

Well consider this - why should I reply with a greeting of peace to an individual who has been a cause of scorn and distress for me? Assume this an individual who doesn't keep his word, plays with your rights, and in your dire time of need scorns and sadistically humiliates you... a prayer of peace from such an individual seems like a joke? Replying to such an individual with a half hearted prayer seems inconsistent with common sense? The point is that why do people seem to place such a religious emphasis on such matters whilst regard more serious issues as far from religion. If someone doesn't sport an exact Sunnah Beard, doesn't reply to someones salam, he's ostracized and beaten down as some kind of heathen - however if someone is a cheat or a usurper breaks his vows - its regarded as business a matter of Duniya...as if being a Muslim somehow grants one automated amnesty of some sort.. whats the point if it doesn't show up in ones COMPLETE personna and aspects of life regarded as 'wordly'.

Its like focusing on icing a poorly cooked up cake!

I want to comit suicide thanks to my life!

Burak — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 01:14:41 GMT

Hello brothers! Im only 15 years old and i have more problems u cant imagine!
First of all i want to tell u that people have not been looking at me as a real person. They see me as a joke. Well it started like this.
I were popular in third grade. I changed school coz i were in 2 much trouble but people liked me when i acted like shit.
In 4th grade i had even more troubles than the previous school.
They said my grades are not good and i really need help so they changed my school to a special group. Here i am in the 8th grade. It has been a pain everyday to go there.
I can tell u its a looong trip!

It takes 1 hour everyday to travel there and i dont want to! 3 and a half years have passed and i lost contact with every friend! They simply see me as a coward scissy now.
Im trying to start in my old school now. Im there 3 days aweek and people find this out and they look at me as a joke. I want to mention that i only have 1 friend. Nobody really likes me now.

Everytime its many against me and noone supports me. It feels like this is gonna kill me someday! The scars will never leave me coz im only at home playing computer games while others are having fun and tells me i have no friends and allways argues with me. Im a troublemaker and its allways me who ends up in trouble. I feel lonely and i allways want to cry. Specially now! Today something really bad happened and hopefully u will support me. Well here is the story.

I recently had an issue with some old friends. I knew them from kindergarden. Atleast 1 of them but they keep calling me “Turk” and so on coz im a Turk.
This pisses me off so i choosed to call him “Nigger”. They are both black actually.

Well i said i will beat him up and he toke the case serious and he told his friends. One of them said why dont u beat “Adem” up. A big guy. I said i dont want to, then this Lebanon christian guy said scissy. I said why dont u fight with me? This was supposed to be a joke and we decided to meet at a place the next day. I said i changed my mind and people called me scissy again. Everything looked fine until now. I didnt want to play a game with this “friend” he said dont play with others they dont want to play with u fucking turk.

I didnt care really bu the situation grew BIG! We decided a place again and we agreed that only Henok and Martin was coming. Henok is a black christian guy from Ethiopia and Martin is christian from Lebanon. Well we agreed to fight 1on1.

I beat up Martin and then Henok came. He hold me and they both tryed to beat me up. An neighbour assisted me and stopped everything. He told me to go home. I did and an old friend followed me home. He got a call and they said we will be fighting again 1on1. We didnt coz he ran away but now they are saying that they beat me up but they didnt.

It was 2v1 and still they got beaten up. I prayed alot for many people so that my duas would be accepted. I prayed for myself aswell for many days and alot. I didnt use this Dua i said in Turkish that i needed help and guidance from Allah. Can i ask Allah to curse them? Will Allaha curse them?
I was the one trying to stay out of this. And i really need ur guys help.

I feel bad and that noone is on my side. Please show me that ur on my side and answer if Allah told me to do the right thing and if it was right of me to go outside. Even tho i knew they would be 2v1. Will Allah punish them? Please pray for me.
And I will pray for you! I got many problems and almost no friends that will help me. Pray that i will get friends to assist me and also pray for me that everything will go right.
Tell me ur problems and i will promise that i will make duas for u. Please help me!

The problems is more than enough! Is this a sign of Allah that i will get a better life later? I doubt so coz i wont forget this at all! What am i gonna tell my kids? I didnt have friends as teenager? There is like noone that wants to hang out with me in my area and im 90% sure noone will help me from troubles. Even tho many people salutes me. I lost an old friend.
I also want to mention i had an old kurdish friend named Robin.

Today he really used me as a toy. He were one of my closest friends in 4th grade but today he were about to kill me. If my neighbour shouldnt help i would be dead. Please help me. Pray for me and if there is anything i could do in return ill do it! I also want to mention that im a nice guy and usually i dont really care if someone calls me a bitch or something unlike most of the kids here. I feel like i entertain people by getting myself killed and in trouble?

I allways share stuff when people asks. I allways help them when or atleast try. I allways burrow them money. I allways try to stop fights. I send money to poor people when possible but still. Why? Im even afraid to go outside! Im scared people will gather up and beat me up. I cant forget today and i have a black empty spot in my stomach. It really hurts and keeps me on bad humor/moral.

Im on a very bad mood. I cant laugh and have fun! Im only worried about this! Please help me! People said this is gonna be very fun! Im gonna bring popcorn! Thats the part i feel really bad about. And also that they will tell everyone they beat me up and people will keep calling me scissy and worthless. I'm writing too much but i need someone to talk to.

Another story is:
My friend Atakan had loads of issues like me.
Everyone wanted to beat him up. Then a guy called Isuf heard about this and toke advantage. He called me fat turk. I called him fat albanian and then fight begun. Lateron he called for a guy called Salar to beat me up. He didnt but he were close 2.

Is there hope for me? We lived here for 15 years now and i dont think my parents will move just coz of this. Im very calmed when people is seing me. Before i wasnt and i think thats a reason why they make fun of me now.
Im going throu a very hard time! Someone has to punnish those guys and u heard the story and what do u think? Is allah on my side or theirs? Will he punnish them? Please pray for me as i mentioned many times. Reply if u do and also mention about ur problems and i will pray for ur problems aswell.

I also want to mention that there is nothing that im good at. Many relatives dont like me. They say im a troublekid. I have been thinking of suicide and an EX home. Im tired of living! While everyone has friends im at home playing computer games and has nothing to do! I cant go to cinema or anything! People recognizes this. They are saying that im online everytime! And people i meet on the internet even tells me that! They tells me i have no friends at all and thats the reason! How do they know?

My grandfathers and grandmothers is dead! All four! My dads father remarried. He died 2009 December. His wife still lives and shes the only one i got left. Shes alone at home and scared all the time. She refuse to even open the door sometimes! She allways asks us to stay with her. After this day i know this scar isnt gonna pass away! I dont even have friends to play computer with anymore. Im even alone on the internet.
Im only 15 and i allready get this "Lets start a new life from the beginning".

Is this normal? If Allah would allow suicide. IDK what would happen with me. I know many Surahs and i got some experience in praying and i can read the quran abit. I live in Sweden. Why do i get all this problems?
Please do something for me to calm me down and stop thinking about negative stuff! I dont want this feeling in my stomach at all! I want to jump from the window and try to forget it all but it doesnt work that way! Im angry! Im on bad mood! Im very depressed! Im fat and also many thinks im ugly.

I mentioned some things over 1-2 times. I dont know what else to say.
And i think we will never play computer games again together! I think that they will never say sorry and im pretty sure we both will never forget this. Even tho they will im 100% sure they will use this against me. Im sure they will say ur the worthless guy that got his *** kicked by us.
For example:
U suck! U are worthless. U got ur *** kicked by us!

I will be very greatful if i could get some help!
Im Really sad and i really want to cry! At the same time i dont!
We have holiday for 1 week and i have been wasting that time to look on internet how to fight. I also looked at some verses from the Noble Quran in English. I prayed to allah as i mentioned but did i do the right thing? I prayed many times. Did Allah guide me for sure and will this bring any good news in the end? I heard if u had a bad life u will get a better one later. Is that true? Coz sometimes people dont see my life as bad coz i live in a Villa and have a good computer and coz my parents allows me to have fun by playing computer as much as i want and so on.

This world is confusing me sometimes! I cant understand people!

Burak Öz / Stockholm - Sweden
Humor: BAD! Depressed. Sad. Cant have fun and only thinking about today and my life.

Hopefully i will calm down and everything will be fine! I will thank anyone for their advice/duas. And in the end i hope everything will be fine! I could need anyone to speak with me on MSN.

THE PACIFISM OF ISLAM

yusuf2010 — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 19:41:17 GMT

According to the Koran, war represents an "unwanted obligation" which has to be absolutely carried out with strict observance of particular humane and moral values and resorted only when it is inevitable.

In a verse, it is explained that those who start wars are the disbelievers and that God does not approve wars:

…Each time they kindle the fire of war, Allah extinguishes it. They rush about the earth corrupting it. Allah does not love corrupters. (Surat al-Ma'ida: 64)

A closer examination of Prophet Muhammad's life reveals that war is a method resorted for defensive purposes only in unavoidable situations.

The revelation of the Koran to Prophet Muhammad lasted for 23 years. During the first 13 years of this period, Muslims lived as a minority under a pagan rule in Mecca and faced much oppression. Many Muslims were harassed, abused, tortured, and even murdered, their houses and possessions were plundered. Despite this however, Muslims led their lives without resorting to any violence and always called pagans to peace.

When the oppression of pagans escalated unbearably, Muslims emigrated to the town of Yathrib, which was later to be renamed Medina, where they could establish their own order in a more friendly and free environment. Even establishing their own political system did not prompt them to take up weapons against aggressive pagans of Mecca. Only after the following revelation, the Prophet commanded his people to get prepared for war:

Permission to fight is given to those who are fought against because they have been wronged - truly God has the power to come to their support - those who were expelled from their homes without any right, merely for saying, 'Our Lord is God'… (Surat al-Hajj: 39-40)

In brief, Muslims were allowed to wage war only because they were oppressed and subjected to violence. To put it in another way, God granted permission for war only for defensive purposes. In other verses, Muslims are warned against use of unnecessary provocation or unnecessary violence:

Fight in the Way of God against those who fight you, but do not go beyond the limits. God does not love those who go beyond the limits. (Surat al-Baqara: 190)

After the revelations of these verses, wars occurred between Muslims and pagan Arabs. In none of these wars, however, were the Muslims the inciting party. Furthermore, Prophet Muhammad established a secure and peaceful social environment for Muslims and pagans alike by signing a peace agreement (Hudaybiya) which conceded to the pagans most of their requests. The party who violated the terms of the agreement and started a new war was again the pagans. However, with rapid conversions into Islam, the Islamic armies attained great power against the pagan Arabs and Prophet Muhammad conquered Mecca without bloodshed and in a spirit of tolerance. If he willed, he could have taken revenge on pagan leaders in the city. Yet, he did not do harm to any one of them, forgave them and treated them with the utmost tolerance. Pagans, who would later convert to Islam by their own will, could not help admiring such noble character of the Prophet.

The Islamic principles God proclaims in the Koran account for this peaceful and temperate policy of Prophet Muhammad. In the Koran, God commands believers to treat even the non-Muslims kindly and justly:

...God does not forbid you from being good to those who have not fought you over religion or driven you from your homes, or from being just towards them. God loves those who are just. God merely forbids you from taking as friends those who have fought you over religion and driven you from your homes and who supported your expulsion... (Surat al-Mumtahana: 8-9)

The verses above specify the outlook of a Muslim on non-Muslims: A Muslim should treat all non-Muslims kindly and avoid making friends only with those who show enmity to Islam. In case this enmity causes violent attacks against the existence of Muslims, that is, in case they wage a war against them, then Muslims should respond them justly by considering the humane dimensions of the situation. All forms of barbarism, unnecessary acts of violence and unjust aggression are forbidden by Islam. In another verse, God warns Muslims against this and explains that rage felt for enemies should not cause them to drift them into injustice:

You who believe! Show integrity for the sake of God, bearing witness with justice. Do not let hatred for a people incite you into not being just. Be just. That is closer to heedfulness. Heed God (alone). God is aware of what you do. (Surat al-Ma'ida: 8)

The Meaning of the Concept of "Jihad"

Another concept that deserves clarification due to the content of this article is the concept of "jihad".

The exact meaning of "Jihad" is "effort". That is, in Islam, "to carry out jihad" is "to show efforts, to struggle". Prophet Muhammad explained that "the greatest jihad is the one a person carries out against his lower soul". What is meant by "lower soul" here is the selfish desires and ambitions. A struggle given on intellectual grounds against anti-religious, atheist views is also a form of jihad in its complete sense.

Apart from these ideological and spiritual meanings, struggle in the physical sense is also considered as "jihad". However, as explained above, this has to be a struggle carried out solely for defensive purposes. The use of the concept of "jihad" for acts of aggression against innocent people, that is for terror, would be unjust and a great distortion.

Compassion, Tolerance and Pacifism in Islam

To state briefly, the Islamic political doctrine is extremely peaceful and moderate. This fact is also confirmed by many non-Muslim historians and theologians. One of these is the British historian, Karen Armstrong, a former nun and a renowned expert on Middle East history. In her book, Holy War, in which she examines the history of the three great divine religions, she comments:

... The word Islam comes from the same Arabic root as the word peace and the Koran condemns war as an abnormal state of affairs opposed to God's will: "When the enemies of the Muslims kindle a fire for war, Allah extinguishes it. They strive to create disorder in earth, and Allah loves not those who create disorder." (Koran 28:78). Islam does not justify a total aggressive war or extermination, as the Torah does in the first five books of the Bible. A more realistic religion than Christianity, Islam recognizes that war is inevitable and sometimes a positive duty in order to and oppressions and suffering. The Koran teaches that war must be limited and be conducted in as humane a way of possible. Mohammed had to fight not only the Meccans but also the Jewish tribes in the area and Christian tribes in Syria who planned on offensive against him in alliance with the Jews. Yet this did not make Mohammed denounce the People of the Book. His Muslims were forced to defend themselves but they were not fighting a holy war against the religion of their enemies. When Mohammed sent his freedman Zaid against the Christians at the head of a Muslim army, he told them to fight in the cause of God bravely but humanely. They must not molest priests, monks and nuns nor the weak and helpless people who were unable to fight. There must be no massacre of civilians nor should they cut down a single tree nor pull down any building. This was very different from the wars of Joshua.

Following the death of Prophet Muhammad, Muslims continued to treat the members of other religions with tolerance and respect. Islamic states became the secure and free home of both Jews and Christians. After the conquest of Jerusalem, Caliph Omar calmed the Christians who were in fear of a massacre and explained to them that they were secure. Furthermore, he visited their churches and declared that they could continue to practise their worship freely.

In 1099, 4 centuries after the conquest of Jerusalem by Muslims, Crusaders invaded Jerusalem and put all Muslims inhabitants to the sword. Again, contrary to the fears of Christians, Saladin, the Muslim general who captured Jerusalem and saved the city from invasion in 1187, did not touch even a single civilian and did not allow a single soldier to plunder. Moreover, he allowed the invading Christians to take all their possessions and leave the city in security.

The periods of Seljuk Turks and the Ottoman Empire were also marked by the tolerance and justice of Islam. As is known, Jews who were expelled from Catholic Spain found the peace they sought on the lands of Ottoman Empire, where they took refuge in 1492. Sultan Mehmed, the conqueror of Istanbul, also allowed Jews and Christians religious freedom. Regarding the tolerant and just practises of Muslims, historian A. Miquel states the following:

The Christians were ruled by a very well administered state which was something that did not exist in the Byzantium or Latin sovereignty. They were never subjected to a systematized oppression. On the contrary, the Empire, and foremost Istanbul, became a refuge for the much tortured Spanish Jews. They were never forced to accept Islam.

John L. Esposito, a professor of Religion and International Politics at the Georgetown University, makes a similar comment:

For many non-Muslim populations in Byzantine and Persian territories already subjugated to foreign rulers, Islamic rule meant an exchange of rulers, the new ones often more flexible and tolerant, rather than a loss of independence. Many of these populations now enjoyed greater local autonomy and often paid lower taxes... Religiously, Islam proved a more tolerant religion, providing greater religious freedom for Jews and indigenous Christians.

As is clarified in these words, history never witnessed Muslims as "makers of mischief". On the contrary, they brought security and peace to the people from all nations and beliefs inhabiting the large territory over which they reigned. (For further reference, see Justice and Tolerance in the Koran, by Harun Yahya, 2000)

In brief, compassion, peace and tolerance constitute the very basis of the values of the Koran and Islam aims to wipe mischief out of the earth.
The commands of the Koran and the ways Muslims practised them throughout history are so clear as to leave no room for dispute.

benefit's of zikr

Asif Naqshbandi Haqqanni — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 16:13:20 GMT

Asalaamu alykum wa rachmatula wa barakato hu

asalato wasalaamu alayka ya rasooloolah sallalu wa alahi wa salim

bismilla ar rachma neeraheem

Benefits of Meditation
Physical Benefits
Deep rest-as measured by decreased metabolic rate, lower heart rate, and reduced work load of the heart.

Lowered levels of cortisol and lactate-two chemicals associated with stress.

Reduction of free radicals- unstable oxygen molecules that can cause tissue damage. They are now thought to be a major factor in aging and in many diseases.

Decreased high blood pressure.

Higher skin resistance. Low skin resistance is correlated with higher stress and anxiety levels.

Drop in cholesterol levels. High cholesterol is associated with cardiovascular disease.

Improved flow of air to the lungs resulting in easier breathing. This has been very helpful to asthma patients.

Younger biological age. On standard measures of aging, long-term Meditation practitioners (more than five years) measured 12 years younger than their chronological age.

Higher levels of DHEAS in the elderly. An additional sign of youthfulness through Meditation lower levels of DHEAS are associated with aging.

Psychological Benefits
Increased brain wave coherence. Harmony of brain wave activity in different parts of the brain is associated with greater creativity, improved moral reasoning, and higher IQ.

Decreased anxiety.

Decreased depression.

Decreased irritability and moodiness.

Improved learning ability and memory.

Increased self-actualization.

Increased feelings of vitality and rejuvenation.

Increased happiness.

Increased emotional stability.

Im In Love

nabilhussain — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 15:17:23 GMT

Assalam Wallaikum

I didnt really know where to put this thread so i thought the social life of a muslim was a bit more fitting.

if this offends anyone, im sorry. i dont think it should though im not commiting any adultery or anything.

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i was at a cousins party where i met one of his cousins, Meena her name was. Very beautiful, good dancer, great personality everything. Im only 16.....shes 16. i repeat, this is not fascination, i really love this girl.....but i cant express myself, i dont know how to say it to her. i care for her so much, i dont know what to do...........how do i tell her this.

The Guidance Of The Prophetصَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْه وَاٰله وَسَلَّم On Managing Time. Shaykh Al-Yaqoubi

Muhammad_Azeem — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 22:18:01 GMT

http://www.sacredknowledge.co.uk/MH/Time%20Management.pdf

Nurse Says Marry Me...

sazeims — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 09:28:21 GMT

There was a companion of ours in Glasgow who became ill and was hospitalized. He was admitted for three days and on the fourth day the attendant nurse said, "Marry me".

He [the brother in Glasgow] asked, "Why? I am a Muslim, you and I cannot become companions."

She said, "I will become Muslim".

"What's the reason?" it was asked.

She said, "In all my time that I have served in hospitals, except you, I have never seen a man lower his gaze in front of a woman. In my life you are the first person who lowers his gaze when seeing a woman. I come, and you close your eyes. Such great modesty can be taught by none other than a true religion."

The protection of one's gaze entered Islam in her. She testified to the Oneness of Allah (SWT) and became a Muslim. They both got married. By now, the same woman was and is the means of bringing so many other girls and women into Islam.

In a Hadith, the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) is reported as having said: "And the eyes commit zina (adultery). Their zina is gazing."

The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) commanded Imam Ali (as) said: "Ali! Do not look once after another, for the first look is for you (since it happens accidentally) while the second is against you."

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talak given the same way as men?

funkychick987 — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 14:56:03 GMT

Salaam hope you are all well and in good health :). my question is regarding the talak (divorce) I know the man can give divorce by saying three times. but for women its not the case. What is the reason behind this?

Another question which i posted before is what is the wisdon behing this = two women witness equal 1 man witness. I was tolded the reason is as women have too much stress and are forgetful?? but this can be the case for men and women.

Jazak'allah :)

Shocking! Disrespect of the Holy Quran in Pakistan on a public scale!!!

Mohammad_Ali — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 06:34:52 GMT

[url=http://pakistanherald.com/Program/Point-Blank-With-Luqman-February-15-2010-Mubbashir-Luqman-3017]http://pakistanherald.com/Program/Point-Blank-With-Luqman-February-15-2010-Mubbashir-Luqman-3017[/url]

This video made me cringe - a single unverified incident in Gojra results in mad mobs tearing and burning down entire villages but in this case there seems to be a marked silence...very disgraceful indeed - may Allah have mercy upon us...

Have Muslims lost the sense of direction?

AKA786 — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 23:43:10 GMT

Alhumdulillahi Rabil A’lameeen Wassalatu Wassalamu A’la Rasoolihi Kareem

Auadhubillahi Min Ash-Shaytan Ar-Rejeem Bismillahi Ar-Rahman Ar-Rahim

After seeing some users mentioning about how religion has become impractible and more of a tool for the self-righteous brethrens, I have decided to make this thread to summarise the issues raised and giving some of my own input to the matter. My intention is not to offend or comment on any particular group, and that’s how I hope people would approach this thread using their own style ofcourse, ie individuality is greatly welcomed and no one expects anyone to be like other over here.

Be neutral and critisize constructively, because when you get your points across in the best of manner only then it would give an everlasting impact on the users here. As a growing community, each and everyone of us needs to be selfless and work together to reach a common goal, which to me is the revival of our Beloved sallalahu alaihi wasalam’s ummah again, both young and elderly alike.

Moving on, first point raised was that how things have become more of a wresling game, everyone feels contend that they are with the strongest group and the ones on ‘haq’.Its ammusing to see that we have involved ourselves deeply in something so silly, it has made us forget our duties to this beautiful life that we have been blessed with.

Something that I never grasp is when people use weak excuse of being forgiven for sins or basically being human, and this has made us loose the plot and confused themselves over whats obligatory and whats not. But on the other hand, when someone else does it we’re quick to jump. Why is the argument valid only for us?

Looking at the examples such as Hazrat Umar radhiyallahu anhu was one of the sahabis who was promised jannah yet he always feared that he maybe put amongst the hypocrite and stived fully in the way of Allah. (if Umar radhiyallahu anhu confused with another sahabi, correct me please)

Why are we taking things for granted? Even after getting frustrated by some of the overly zealous preachers, that shouldn’t really put us off from our duties to Allah. Why does it hide the fact from us that indeed what were doing is wrong and our concious has pretty much stopped interfering? Everyone should conciously know that they are doing it for the sake of Allah and not because they are representing certain group or Shaykh who guide us to His azzawajal will.

It’s an open-topic, so come along and share your view. It will serve as a reminder for us and a checklist so we can see where are we heading and change ourselves accordingly (with the beautiful deen).

JazakAllah kheir for listening

The Muslim origins of Valentine's Day

GunmetalGrey — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 16:26:20 GMT

Original post here at http://www.mooslim.com/blog/?p=816

Original post by {Mr Moo}

The Muslim origins of Valentine’s Day

There are plenty of naysayers who say Islam forbids celebrating Valentine’s Day, that we should be nice to our loved ones all year round. However, it is all based on the premise that Valentine’s Day is a purely Christian festival. The origins of Valentine’s Day are quite sketchy. Here is the true and definitive reason why Muslims should embrace Valentine’s Day in all its commercial, superficial glory

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The Muslim origins of Valentine’s Day

There once was a village in Muslimistan, where a young boy called Wali Nuteen lived. He was a kind, fun-loving adventurous boy, who was Sunni, practicing, tall, with a fair complexion, steady job and a healthy respect for Shia people, without appearing dogmatic. In fact, just the kind of description any Muslim lady scouring adverts on Muslim matrimonial sites would be happy with.

One day, Wali was walking along the main street of his village when he spied a beautiful lady. In an instant, he fell in love. The girl was called Begum; she was from a rival tribe. She was 23 years his senior, and already married. But he still, Walis love for Begum knew no bounds.

Usually, someone like Wali would be smacked silly at the very least by Begum’s husband, or by Begum’s family or more likely, by both. However, Wali was known as being an eccentric boy and decent if not very bright sort, so they didn’t kill him. Wali didn’t do much about his love either, just quietly waited for the right time.

Many years later, news reached Walis village that Begum’s husband had tragically chocked on his miswaak. Begum was distraught and her children fatherless. Wali, being the insensitive, selfish chap that people in love usually are, thought he had found his chance. Begum’s father, who was now 76, met with Wali.

“Your only chance with my daughter is if you can kiss your elbow”

For the next few days Wali wandered between his village and Begums village, vainly trying to kiss his elbows. At last, he couldn’t take it anymore. With the assistance of a local blacksmith, Wali dislocated both shoulders, and kissed both his elbows. Triumphant, he staggered to Begums house.

However the awkward angle of his drooping arms, along with the screams of pain, looked like an insult to Begum’s father. He promptly shot Wali through the heart. Begum did not know any of this as she was on a recuperative trip to the seaside. Begum’s father was a very very clever man.

The locals used this story to warn children about love, and the story became ‘Wali Nuteen Day’, which after visits by Crusaders, and many years of retelling, became ‘Valentine’s Day’. The moral, dear readers, is this:

Do not dislocate both your shoulders to kiss your elbows on Valentine’s Day, or any other day for that matter.

Help Please???

Saqab — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 23:40:22 GMT

Assalamalykum Brotherz & Sisterz. Could anyone please direct me or tell me either here on yanabi website or any other websites preferrably yanabi please where i could find and read about different islam related topics with SOLID proof from the quran and hadith and then learn in the process and give answers to them people who question and talk to me for example i would like to read in full everything about celebrating eid milad un nabi (s.a.w) (celebrating the birthday of the beloved habeeb) with proofs from the quran and hadith please and also ALL other various topics islam related please? I tried looking here on yanabi website but i am having difficulties lol cant find nothing it's hard to search for different topics, i tried going through via the forums link still nothing lol please help me anyone. Thank You.

Allahhafiz.

Saqab.:)

COST SAVING STRATEGIES IN DIFFICULT TIMES FOR ALL

imranhussain2010 — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 00:46:32 GMT

is anyone interested in very cheap stationary items, gas and electric supply, mobile phone contracts. I carry out cost saving projects for any sized compnay and aim to save over 40% of theire current expenditure on energy,telecommunications and stationary and furniture.

If you are interested please send me a private message and we can take it further.

Name change after marriage allowed??

Maya123 — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 15:57:13 GMT

Salaam all

Are we allowed to change our surnames to that of our husbands after we marry??

I heard somewhere that we should keep the name given to us by our fathers.

I was thinking about changing both my first name and surname (surname to my husbands). Islamically, is this allowed??

Jazaak'Allah

Afew Puzzling Questions

Pakii — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 17:20:11 GMT

marriage

momin4eva — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 16:29:32 GMT

Asalam ul aikum..

nowadayz i ve seen and experincing that doin a nikah / marriage has been made extremely diffcult and fornication has been made extremely eazy.. n the reason for that i thing the cultural aspect is being lookd and considered before islam and cultural traditions had made it extremely difficult as well as the evolving desirez of ourself and false promises that we make to ourself are also to be blamed.. could any 1 explain how can we eradicate this issue and help our fellow sunni muslims brotherz n sisterz who r genuinly looking for thier pious partnerz... cz i do see an increase in fornication rapidly if this issues is not addressed...

Does Islam permit Love Marraige and Celebration of Valentine's Day?

EmpireofFaith — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 04:08:35 GMT

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NlLdtPQTdsk
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ab63BeU82ek

Host : [B]Tasleem Sabri[/B]
Scholars : [B]Mufti Akmal Attari [/B]and [B]Syed Muzzafar Hussain Shah[/B]

The entire program can be downloaded from
http://www.nooremadinah.net/MediaLibrary/MediaDisplay.asp?MediaSpeakerID=80&MainCatID=9&MediaTypeID=2

Title
12. QTV Sehri Time Program # 12 - 13/09/2008 (Mohabbat)

Does Islam permit Love Marraige and Celebration of Valentine's Day?

EmpireofFaith — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 14:08:52 GMT

This video is a editted version of a program containing Panel Discussion about Sharia ruling on Love Marraige,Celbration of Events like Valentines day ,etc. and also Role of Media in promoting this type of Culture.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NlLdtPQTdsk
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ab63BeU82ek

Host : Tasleem Sabri
Scholars : Mufti Akmal Attari and Syed Muzzafar Hussain Shah

The entire program can be downloaded from
http://www.nooremadinah.net/MediaLibrary/MediaDisplay.asp?MediaSpeakerID=80&MainCatID=9&MediaTypeID=2

Title
12. QTV Sehri Time Program # 12 - 13/09/2008 (Mohabbat)

Sincere advice from a muslim da'ee.

ahmedmoait — Fri, 25 Dec 2009 19:49:27 GMT

EXTREMELY SINCERE ADVICE URGENT URGENT URGENT!

If you look, read and watch our stuff you might say:

What kind of message is that?
What kind of wording is that?
It is too much, too tough, it is not polite!

If you think this way, ask yourself which one is tougher, what you are hearing and reading from me or all the Signs which are happening around you everyday.

Death, Hurricanes, Volcanoes, Earthquakes, Tsunami, Typhoon, Flooding, Earth movement, Hunger, Diseases, Burning, Bombing, Killing, Villages being swallowed, and finally the journey of death, the journey of the soul and the Day of Judgment ending with Hellfire or Paradise.

Please Muslims readers or non-Muslims readers, our message compared to the truth, compared to the realty and compared to what is coming is NOTHING.

Sometimes medications taste sour or taste uncomfortable and it have side effects, but the main thing is the result- the cure.

If you understand the message and the reality of the message you will find that the wordings of Da'ee Ahmed Moait are so sweet and soft like ice cream.

If you understand the message and the reality of the message, if you just go and study the journey of death and the journey of the soul, you will see that our responsibility as Muslims is so great to ourselves and towards mankind.

O non-Muslim! Your responsibility is the same too; it is to save yourself from the hellfire.

We are supposed to prepare ourselves for the journey after death.
Paradise is not cheap and hellfire is not easy.

Do yourself a favor, the biggest one in your life, question yourself 1,000 times before you make any hasty decision. You will be the ultimate winner in this life and the hereafter.

Watch Complete Video live!

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Owais Qadri in Houston on Dec 27?

devoteddevotee — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 20:54:02 GMT

Assalamo Alaikum,
I've heard rumors that Owais Qadri is going to be in Houston, Texas today (December 27). I would like to get more information about this, if anyone knows?
Where is he staying? How long will he be here? Where will he be reciting?

Thank you.
Salam.

Fathers Eyes

sazeims — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 09:43:27 GMT

Confidence Building Story: Fathers Eyes

A teenager lived alone with his father, and the two of them had a very special relationship. The father believed in encouragement. Even though the son was always on the bench, his father was always in the stands cheering. He never missed a game.

This young man was the smallest of the class when he entered high school.

His father continued to encourage him but also made it very clear that he did not have to play football if he didn't want to.

But the young man loved football and decided to hang in there. He was determined to try his best at every practice, and perhaps he would get to play when he became a senior.

All through high school he never missed a practice or a game, but remained a bench warmer all four years. His faithful father was always in the stands, always with words of encouragement for him. When the young man went to college, he decided to try out for the football team as a "walk-on."

Everyone was sure he could never make the cut, but he did. The coach admitted that he kept him on the roster because he always puts his heart and soul to every practice, and at the same time, provided the other members with the spirit and hustle they badly needed. The news that he had survived the cut thrilled him so much that he rushed to the nearest phone and called his father.

His father shared his excitement and was sent season tickets for all the college games. This persistent young athlete never missed practice during his four years at college, but he never got to play in the game.

It was the end of his senior football season, and as he trotted onto the practice field shortly before the big play off game, the coach met him with a telegram. The young man read the telegram and he became deathly silent.

Swallowing hard, he mumbled to the coach, "My father died this morning. Is it all right if I miss practice today?"

The coach put his arm gently around his shoulder and said, "Take the rest of the week off, son. And don't even plan to come back to the game on Saturday." Saturday arrived, and the game was not going well.

In the third quarter, when the team was ten points behind, a silent young man quietly slipped into the empty locker room and put on his football gear. As he ran onto the sidelines, the coach and his players were astounded to see their faithful team-mate back so soon.

"Coach, please let me play. I have just got to play today," said the young man.

The coach pretended not to hear him. There was no way he wanted his worst player in this close playoff game. But the young man persisted, and finally feeling sorry for young man, the coach gave in. "All right," he said. "You can go in." Before long, the coach, the players and everyone in the stands could not believe their eyes. This little unknown, who had never played before, was doing everything right. The opposing team could not stop him. He ran, he passed, blocked and tackled like a star. His team began to triumph.

The score was soon tied. In the closing seconds of the game, this young man intercepted a pass and ran all the way for the winning touchdown. The fans broke loose. His team-mates hoisted him onto their shoulders. Such cheering you have never heard!

Finally, after the stands had emptied and the team had showered and left the locker room, the coach noticed that the young man was sitting quietly in the corner all alone. The coach came to him and said, "Young man, I can't believe it. You were fantastic! Tell me what got into you? How did you do it?"

Young man looked at the coach, with tears in his eyes, and said, "Well, you knew my dad died, but did you know that my dad was blind?" The young man swallowed hard and forced a smile, "Dad came to all my games, but today was the first time he could see me play, and I wanted to show him I could do it!"

Remember:

* "Every accomplishment starts with the decision to try."
* "Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all."
* "Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow."

many more such stories

http://kgn786.com/forum/index.php?board=34.0

harrow mosque protest dec 13th

scorpio11 — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 01:26:48 GMT

Assalam alaikum As you may be aware Harrow Central Mosque is once again the focal point for rightwing Islamophobic extremists who will be holding a protest on Sunday 13th December. Harrow Central Mosque would like to have a number of community volunteers to act as stewards to try and make sure that the youg people, and others attending, are kept safe and are not encouraged to do actions by others which will simply damage the image of Muslims in Harrow and the reputation of the mosque. The key group behind the protest, Stop the Islamisation of Europe (SIOE), had made it very clear that the intention of such protests is to show how violent the Muslims are. It is our intention to refute this by making sure those who attend are not pulled into actions which may break the law or allow the media to get that "money" shot. We are looking for up to 50 volunteers. You should be calm and level headed and be able to speak with people in a manner which will deflate tensions. We are not here to police the event nor expect you to assist the police in making arrests or controlling opposing protestors. We simply want to make sure that we do all we possibly can to prevent the young people attending, majority of whom will be Muslim, from getting into unnecessary trouble with the Police and providing a voice of reason and trust. Training will take place on: Sunday 6th DecemberHarrow Central Mosque(after Maghrib salah)Duration: approx 1 hr. If you are interested in helping please reply to this email (info@harrowmosque.org.uk). Please do let us know if you are coming so that we can make adequate arrangements. . Please feel free to pass this email onto other brothers and your networks.

Cure for Hardening of the Heart

Qadri Noori — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 23:53:28 GMT

[center]al-Qurtubi's
At-Tadhkirah
[/center]
Ibn Majah reported on the authority of Ibn Ma’sud rađiyAllāhu ánhu that the Prophet şallAllāhu álayhi wa sallam said,

[center]I have previously prohibited you of visiting graves, but now i ask you to do so as they help you disregard this worldly life and reminds you of the hereafter.[/center]

Scholars have said,

The best thing for the hearts, particularly if they are hardened, is to visit cemeteries. Those who have hardened hearts can cure them by the following things:

(1) Attending religious congregations to help them repent by listening to sermons that remind one of Allah Almighty, alarm them of hell, provoke them to seek Jannah, tell them about the biographies of virtuous people which softens hearts and cures them.

(2) Remembering death frequently as it eliminates pleasures, sets clans apart and renders children orphans. It is narrated that a woman complained to Ummul Mumineen Sayyidah Ayesha Siddiqah rađiyAllāhu ánha that her (the woman enquiring) heart is hardened. So Ummul Mumineen rađiyAllāhu ánha said to her, “If you remember death frequently, your heart will be softened.” The woman did so and her heart became softer, and she came back to thank her, may Allah Almighty be pleased with her. Scholars have stated, “Remembering death deters one from committing sins, soften rigid hearts, alleviates one’s indulgence in this worldly lifeand decreases the impact of catastrophes."

(3) Seeing dying people on their deathbeds. Doing so, together with witnessing their suffering and pondering about their fate after death, undermines delight, prevents sleep and relaxation, urges people to toil and increases diligence and hard work.

Imam Qurtubi’s, At-Tadhkirah, pg 30 – 31, Dar al Manarah

Yanabi.com meeting update

pg064 — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 01:30:12 GMT

Assalamu alaykum

I have had an indepth discussion with Brother Alom and can conclude that I aim to hire a 7 seater from Worcester and will collect people from the West Midlands area.

1. I need to know how many people in the West Midlands are willing to come with us in the 7 seater.

From here we aim to go to either the London area or the Yorkshire area for the meeting.

2. I need to know which area has the geatest interest of people who wish to meet and discuss possible tangible steps forward i.e. If the greatest interest is in the Yorkshire region then we will meet with the brothers in Yorkshire.

Sajid

i humbly request to our users not to divert the attention of the subject in hand with random topics

Back to Uni?

New Leaf — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 18:25:36 GMT

Assalaamualaikum

Many of us are returning to our Universities to start to the new academic year within the next few weeks.

I pray that we all have the protection of our Lord the Highest and remember that even if our family is not watching us, He is.

Y'Allaahu Shaahidi - Allaah is witnessing me

Y'Allaahu Naadhiri - Allaah is watching me

Y'Allaahu Ma'aee - Allaah is with me

I also wish you all a successful new academic year, Insha Allaah. Work hard and make Muslims proud!

Wassalaam

"Grammar Wahabi"

seeker — Sat, 12 Sep 2009 18:58:08 GMT

[i]Salaam, came across this and I thought one or two characters here might find it amusing![/i]

[b][u]The Grammar of 'Aqidah[/u][/b]

I can't tell you how happy I was when I came across this entry by the publishers of the Oxford English Dictionary:

Are there words that contain the letter 'q' without a 'u' following it?

The answer is a resounding "Yes!" The reason I mention this is that a few years ago I noticed that several Muslim authors, book publishers and websites (mainly, if not exclusively, of the "Salafi" persuasion) had dispensed with the widely accepted spelling of 'aqidah (i.e. creed / doctrine / dogma) and instead were spelling it 'aqueedah. I was both dumbfounded and embarrassed! Now I had even more books that I had to hide from non-Muslims! Keep in mind that the issue here is not their use of the double "e" (which can have its benefits in pronunciation in spite of the fact that it's rather unsightly), nor the use of the terminal "h" to represent a taa marbutah (which I prefer simply for distinction's sake). Rather, the issue is their use of "qu" in lieu of a lone "q" to ostensibly represent the Arabic letter qaf.

It seems to me that anyone familiar with the basic rules of English pronunciation would immediately see the flaw in this newfangled spelling of 'aqueedah. Indeed, spelling the word this way renders a pronunciation of akwïda - which comes nowhere near the original Arabic pronunciation. When the letters "qu" are used in English (a spelling and pronunciation inherited from Latin), they almost always produce the "kw" sound. A few obvious examples are quick (kwik), quit (kwit) and quart (kwôrt). The only exception to the "kw" pronunciation of "qu" that I'm aware of is the word "queue" (kyü). However, this is a rare exception and only proves what I mention below: that almost all rules of grammar are subject to exceptions.

I recall reading an article on a "Salafi" website, which I am now unable to locate, in which the author did his level best to explain why the letter "q" can only be used with a "u" immediately following. My guess is that some over zealous "Salafi" (who seem to have a knack for learning about a rule - real or alleged, understanding it simplistically, taking it absolutely and then trying to force it on others) was sitting in his English Grammar 101 course when the professor happened to mention that in the English language the letter "q" is never used unless followed by a "u". This well-intentioned "Grammar Wahabi", in his self-righteous zeal, then decided to take it upon himself to demonstrate that everyone else was wrong, while he - with his newly found knowledge - was right. How many times have we seen this before?

Yes, it is true that in the English language the letter "q" is usually followed by a "u". However, this is a general rule which, like most general rules, has a few exceptions. Indeed, the mistake of the anonymous "Grammar Wahabi" who started using 'aqueedah was in assuming that there are no exceptions to the aforementioned rule of grammar. A wise man once said, "Assumption - the Mother of All Screw Ups." One of the most common exceptions to this rule of spelling is when foreign words are incorporated into the English language. According to the most authoritative sources (including the Oxford English Dictionary and the Encyclopedia Britannica) there are words in the English language in which a "u" does not follow a "q", all but one of these words having reached English from another language (mainly Chinese or Arabic). Actually, my first thought when reading the article which tried to justify the use of the 'aqueedah spelling was to surmise that the general rules of spelling simply don't apply when incorporating foreign words into the English language, since Qatar, qadi and Qinq can be found in any descent English dictionary or encyclopedia.

So it seems that our proverbial "Grammar Wahabi", after learning a rule of grammar, could no longer see the forest because of the trees. If he understood basic English pronunciation and had realized that the sine qua non of transliteration is to make a word written in a foreign script or language pronounceable in the English language, then he probably would not have fallen into this 'aqueedah error. Well at least he's not just another Wahabi with 'aqueedah problems, since this time they're of a different sort!

Women self Defence

ILOVEISLAM7864 — Sat, 12 Sep 2009 14:37:39 GMT

salaam

My Sister Want To learn A type Of Self Defence. In the Modern society she feel unsafe and
she Assumes she is a easy target because she is a women, she also has to travel at night because of her university.

I personally Think It Is A Great Idea And I Am Wondering If There Are Any Classes Or facilities for
My Sister To Go to In her Local Area Walthamforest.

Thank You

I also Think It Is A Good Idea for All Sisters To Learn !

Hackney muslim community appeal

Daywalk3r — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 18:11:19 GMT

AsalaamzWW,

This Friday/Jumma is the launch of the Homerton Hospital Appeal (based in East London). The appeal is supported and endorsed by all the Masjids in Hackney as well as the main Muslim schools, Muslim organisations and Muslim womens organisations. Funds are being raised for the hospital’s Special Care Baby Unit (SCBU) – a unit that cares for babies born with delicate and serious health issues (i.e. like an intensive care unit).

Brothers and sisters reading this email may even know babies, possibly even in one’s own family, that have been cared for at the unit and the support it has given to parents, especially mothers. This Appeal is a token of the Hackney Muslim communities appreciation of the valuable work the unit does.

Please donate generously this Ramdhan as good deeds are multiplied many times over. It would be appreciated if the attached poster and this email can be forwarded to as many people as possible, especially sisters.

If each person was to donate an hour’s pay, or half an hour’s pays, or a day’s pocket money, or the cost of a meal out, or the cost of a t-shirt, or the cost of a pair of earrings or lipstick, or even the cost of a loaf of bread towards the Appeal Inshallah that would go a long way in supporting the work of staff at the SCBU. Imagine the smile on a mothers face when she sees the improvements in the health of her baby – an improvement that YOU helped bring by your donation.

The funds raised will be presented to Homerton Hospital by a cross section of Hackney’s Muslim community.

Help save/improve the life of a baby by donating today. (contact names on poster or online via paypal)

Please spread this message to anyone you know in the Hackney area by email, phone, face-2-face, text, facebook, twitter etc - shout it out!

Email Masjidcup@gmail.com for further info and poster

Why do you do this?

AKA786 — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 02:30:09 GMT

Assalamu alaikum,

Please educate me why do people scream to the top on certain occasions and events, this happens most commonly among the womanfolks rather than the other gender according to my observations. Whats the fun that I am missing here?

The occasions normally include marriages when people dance and make the funniest moves but well to certain groups its better than michael jackson and the encouragement is pumped up with such screams. Also, events when certain comments are made which might be lewd or simply just funny/sarcastic. The most common place woud be live concerts but I hope not many go over there so it can be ruled out for this particular discussion.

So whats the deal than? less freedom at home? Too much exam stress to take out? Or just having fun? Please educate me and I mean no offense to anyone, just what people feel by doing such.

Typical asian scream - WOOOOOAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH HO HO HO HO HO HO

Typical arab scream - (using tongue) la la la la la la la la la laiiiiiii

JazakAllah for all the valuable insight that would be brought forward

p.s most observations can relate to past so don't bother judging me just stick to topic.

Annual Urs Khajgaan Dhangri Sharif - LUTON

Raja Faisal — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 03:39:53 GMT

Annual Urs Khajgaan Dhangri Sharif being held at Dallow Community Centre on Sunday 28th June 2009 from 5pm to 9pm - presided by Qibla Pir Sahib Muhammad Habib ur Rahman of Dhangri Sharif and Suffa tul Islam, Bradford. The event will be attended by several accomplished Scholars, with talks being presented in both English and Urdu. Refreshments available.

Hope you can find the time to attend.

Please contact Faisal on 07961746072 or Amar on 07960041255 for further information.

Allama Pir Tauqir Ishaq Naqshbandi Hijazi's lectures from Trinidad tour

Hijazi786 — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 13:10:32 GMT

786

Asalaam Alaikum

Last summer my murshid Hazrat Allama Pir Tauqir Ishaq Naqshbandi Hijazi, the Chief Executive of Hijaz College, Islamic University and a Khalifa of Hazrat Allama Pir Mujaddid Muhammad Abdul Wahhab Siddiqi (RAA) toured Trinidad and gave a number of lectures on Sunni Aqaid in the English language.

You can listen to them at

http://hijazitt.webs.com/apps/videos/channels/show/791330-shaykh-tauqir-ishaq

Urs Shareef of Sultan ul HIND!

Zarb e Ali — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 13:21:43 GMT

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Salam brothers and sisters in islam,

The urs shareef of Shaikh ul azeem, Sultan ul Hind, Khawaja e khawagaan, Sarkar Hazrat Gareeb Nawab, Moinuddin hassan Chisti [i]alayhis 'salam[/i] is comming up withing a week.

This is to inform before hand uninformed can prepare and plus, lets share how we will be celebrating it, if anyone? Give out nobel ideas, Please share!

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25th June. == URS BEGINS (Jannati darwaza opens)

26TH June == NAMAZ-E-JUMA

30th June. ==CHHATI SHARIF (Annual Fathea Jannati darwaza will be closed)

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[b]YA GAREEB NAWAZ, HUM GAREEB LOGOON PAY KARAM! SAQDA HASSAN HUSSAIN KA [i]alayhis 'salam[/i] KA [/b]

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Wasalam!

PAKISTAN ARMY HELLMARCH

Zarb e Ali — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 17:08:01 GMT

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Contributing to wider Society

Daywalk3r — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 16:00:12 GMT

AsalaamzWW,

Is there anyone here who lives in the West who contributes anything postive towards the wider society either individually or collectively through an organisation?

Things such are raising funds for say the local hospital that everyone in the community uses, few hours per month helping out at local homeless shelter, fundraising to donate benchs for local park, help raising funds for local childrens play areas, teaching something like say maths to kids on a voluntury basis at local community centre etc.

What sort of advice can you give to others who may wish to get involved in such? How did you go about it? What was the response from the muslim community and wider non-muslim community? Any interesting stories/expereinces?

Attainment of Intense Love for Allah

khadim.deen — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 03:32:44 GMT

So my dear friends, how do we attain that rank where our hearts can be brimming with intense love for Allah so that we may become totally obedient to Him?

Remember that we can never be totally obedient to Him until we develop intense love for Him. Why? Because if we love our hearts more than we love Him, then we will not hesitate in the least to break His commands should we experience any difficulty to our hearts.Consider the following example: A beautiful woman passes by. Our heart is inclined to look at her. [b]If we love Allah intensely (more than our heart) then we will displease our heart and please Allah by not looking at her. If, on the other hand, we love our heart more, then we will go ahead and sin by casting a lustful glance at her,thereby pleasing the heart and at the same time displeasing Allah[/b]. Thus in order to stay away from sins, it is necessary that the love of Allah be more than anything else.

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When you know you're spending too much time on YaNabi!

seeker — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 22:20:51 GMT

[b]WHEN YOU KNOW YOU'RE SPENDING TO MUCH TIME ON YANABI[/b]

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1. When you keep going to the same pages or keep clicking refresh, hoping someone will start a new thread / reply to one already there. :crazy:

2. When the top 5 threads in the forum say:
[u]"Last Post By: By (your name here)!"[/u]

3. You read qalam's posts because you consider it 'entertainment'

4. When someone changes their avatar/image, you think it's a different person!

5. You scroll down the main forum page, looking for a topic that says [b]Today @...[/b] so that you can join in!

6. When I say KTL, you think "BMW!" :smooooth:

7. When I say Tahir, you think "purple/orange light masjid!"

8. You *right-click* + *new tab* 5 or 6 topics at a time.

9. In your head you think Sister Nur looks strangely a lot like shaykh Ninowy... :hehe:

10. You have exams. You have homework. You've gotta do some housework. But "hold on 5 mins... brother Alom just posted something... oh look OE wrote something too..."

11. You know what OE stands for.

12. You can name 5+ moderators off the top of your head.

13. You ARE a moderator!

14. You click on the bolded topics, not so that you can read them, but cos it annoys you that they're bolded!!

15. You can close your eyes and name 10+ topics from the past 2 days off the top of your head! :cool:

16. You stop feeling sorry for qalam. :rolleyes:

17. You have a YaNabi.com/forum bookmark / shortcut / it IS your home page!

18. You start picking up html... [ b ], [ /b ], [ quote ]...

19. You sit here thinking about stuff like all of the above because you're trying to avoid revision! :w00t:

Advice for Muslim's going to University

hamzah — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 21:15:33 GMT

AsalaamAlaykum Warahmatullah

Once again, as every year our Muslim Brothers and Sisters throughout the UK will be contantly checking their UCAS applications to see whether or not they have been given a place at any University.

The purpose of creating this thread is to provide some advice and support for these brothers and sisters.

Can each person who responds either post one experience that they have had as a Muslim at Univeristy, and their advice on how to counter it, or post general Uni survival tips.

I will start:

Tip 1. Be brave and speak to as many people as you can. Go to your Islamic society and get to know people. make good friends, it will help you the whole time you are there!

* Also if anyone wants to discuss where they have recieved offers from and which courses they are doing, or advise on league tables etc, then feel free to do so!

london milad gathering

ashrafi jilani — Sun, 07 Jun 2009 13:35:05 GMT

salaam

does any body know which ulema of JAMAT AHLE SUNNAT UK# attend the milad gathering of mufakir e islam peer syed abdul qadir jilani mza

jamaat ahle sunnat uk not jamaat ahle sunnat uk and europe

thank you

wasalam

You Are Being Watched !!

manhagenglish — Wed, 27 May 2009 20:01:05 GMT

Many thanks to Allah and peace and blessings be upon his prophet Muhammad..

My Beloved in Allah..

First, I thank Allah for your cooperation … and I understand that there are many of you who are busy with exams.. I have good faith in you that you will be up to my expectations

Second, bless the efforts of all who helped us spread this project to help people worship Allah the all Mighty; and the efforts of those who publicized it in popular forums and sites; and those who translated to other languages…

Remember always that we are the servants of Allah’s religion ..He chose us and used us to serve Him. << Is there any reward for good other than good?>> Ar-Rahman:60

Third, Whoever couldn’t implement any of the duties from the previous messages can still make up on what he missed. This is what I felt from a few of you, So come on brothers and sisters let’s move together on the way to Allah .

Don’t care about the look of your Ibadah (act of worship).. what is important is the effect it had on your heart.

I want you to jot down your notes about your status, how does your heart soften?

Is it by istighfar? Renewing your repentance? Descending of mercy? Gratitude to Allah? Seclusion with Allah?

Fifth: Do you feel how days are passing by? Ten days had passed and we only have three months before we reach Ramadan; and our status isn’t that good.. I ask you by Allah’s name to wake up and work hard!

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One thing to Remember: Ya’ly Ibn Obeid –may Allah forgive him- said: We met Muhammad Ibn sawkah who said:

I will tell you a speech that I hope it will do you good like it did me. Attaa' Ibn Rabah told us: My nephew, there were people who lived in previous times who used to hate unnecessary talk.. They considered every word unnecessary except for:

1. reciting the Quran

2. Enjoining (on the people) Al-Ma'ruf (i.e. Islamic Monotheism and all that Islam orders one to do)

3. Forbidding (people) from Al-Munkar (i.e. polytheism and disbelief of all kinds, and all that Islam has forbidden)

4. Necessary talk for your life matters … Do you deny this verse? {But verily, over you (are appointed angels in charge of mankind) to watch you, Kiraman (Honourable) Katibin writing down (your deeds)} Al-Infitar:10&11) and { (Remember) that the two receivers (recording angels) receive (each human being), one sitting on the right and one on the left (to note his or her actions) Not a word does he (or she) utter but there is a watcher by him ready (to record it)..}(Qaf:17&18) …

Aren’t you embarrassed when your (written) pages [of deeds (good and bad)] are laid open and you find out that most of what’s written are unnecessary talk that didn’t belong to your religion nor to your life matters?

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Can you imagine that you are being watched?

That your words are heard, recorded and that you will be accountable for them?

Imagine that.. and if you still can’t find your heart and you are still complaining… Here is the reason:

It was narrated by Ibn Ummar- may Allah be pleased with them- that he said: The prophet –peace and blessings be upon him- said: "Don’t indulge in too much talk except for remembering and mentioning of Allah .... Too much talk hardens your heart; and people who have hard hearts are the furthest from Allah” narrated by el Tirmidhe and he said: Hassan Gharib

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Thus count your words and think before you talk

Younnes Ibn Obeid said: Any Person who thinks before he utters any word , will find the goodness of that in the rest of his deeds (El Samt by Aby el Donia; p257)

Stick to these nine points and don’t deviate from them:

El Rabie Ibn Khaseem-May Allah forgive him- said: There is no good in any speech except for these nine:

1. Takbeer (saying Allaahu akbar (Allaah is most great),

2. Tahmeed (saying al-hamdu Lillah (praise be to Allaah),

3. Tahleel (saying Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah (There is no god but Allaah),

4. Tasbeeh (saying Subhaan-Allaah (Glory be to Allaah),

5. Asking about all good,

6. Seeking refugee with Allah from all evil,

7. Enjoining (on the people) Al-Ma'ruf (i.e. Islamic Monotheism and all that Islam orders one to do),

8. Forbidding (people) from Al-Munkar (i.e. polytheism and disbelief of all kinds, and all that Islam has forbidden),

9. Reciting the quran

(El Samt by Ibn Aby el Donia; p.246)

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Thus get used to doing this good deed:

Abdullah Ibn Mubarak- May Allah forgive him- said: Some people explained the meaning of Seclusion as: When you are surrounded by people, if they indulged in mentioning Allah, you indulge with them; and if they indulge in else than that, you adopt silence” (el Samt for Aby el Donia; p241)

Today’s motto will be: Adopt Silence

The prophet –peace and blessings be upon him- said: Is there anything that topples people on their faces -or he said on their nose- into Hell-fire other than the harvests of their tongues? Narrated by Imam Ahmed, Ibn Majah and classified as sahih by alAlbani

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Our Goal: We want our hearts to straighten and never deviate, turn nor stray away from Allah

Imam Ahmed (rahimahullah) reported in his Musnad, "The faith of a man cannot be straight unless his heart is straight, and his heart cannot be straight, unless his tongue becomes straight." [Musnad Ahmed]

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What we need to do for today :

Adopt silence for an hour in which you used to speak a lot .. Decrease your phone calls.. Count your words..

Can you adopt silence in an hour that used to be full of speech so as to straighten your heart??

In the name of Allah, Answer Him(by obeying Him) and (His) Messenger when he (peace and blessings be upon him) calls you to that which will give you life.

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